Divorce is always stressful. But if, in addition, your ex-spouse left for another woman, the situation is aggravated, negative emotions can overwhelm and drag you into the abyss of despair. What to do to prevent this from happening?
Unleash your feelings. Don't hold back. Just do not call your ex-spouse and his passion and pour negativity on their heads. This will not make anyone feel better. Try to release your anger and resentment using safe methods. For example, connect your imagination, imagine that the faithful is in front of you and tell him everything that is in your soul. Or pour out what you feel on paper. If words are not enough, just draw, draw - how it will turn out. Then burn or tear the paper. And with it your hatred.
Do not rush to look for a new partner just to prove to your spouse that you are worth something, that you can still have a boyfriend. Firstly, you will not prove anything, and secondly, you will hurt the newly-minted gentleman. After all, your negative emotions cannot be hidden. At best, you will be honored with pity, at worst, they will be offended and leave. Compounding your despair
You should not seek salvation in alcohol. Yes, it will numb the pain for a while, but then you will feel it again - and more acutely than before. The same goes for sedatives, tranquilizers. Of course, sometimes you have to resort to them, but only if they are recommended by a specialist.
By the way, it would be quite nice to talk with a psychologist about how best to survive a divorce, how to make a way out of a stressful situation as painless and quick as possible. If you think that you can cope without a psychologist, that's fine too. This means that the upward movement has begun, you are ready to open a new page in life.
It is useful to analyze the situation, soberly judge who is to blame for what and what to do now. But getting bogged down in the jungle of introspection is quite dangerous - everything should be in moderation. Do not withdraw into yourself, talk with loved ones, relatives, friends. Believe them your worries and ask them about their problems - sincerely, from the heart. Help, if necessary, please with something. Do not avoid friendly parties, small family celebrations. Life goes on, do not run away from its pleasant moments.
And boost your self-esteem. Praise yourself for not allowing depression to break you, for not hurting anyone or humiliating anyone by suffering yourself. Nothing is done just like that, a divorce was needed for the further development of you as a person. You should be grateful to him for this.
