The process of establishing relations with an ex-wife is a long and painstaking work that must be endured with honor. The reward for restraint and wisdom will be that your child treats you well.
Unfortunately, situations of divorce in families are becoming more common. First of all, children suffer from this, who are forced to choose which side of the parents should be taken. One of the most painful problems in divorced families is the behavior of the ex-wife, who is struggling to turn the child against his father. How should a man behave in such a difficult situation?
How to behave with your ex-wife
It is necessary to understand and understand why a woman does this. There are a number of explanations for this behavior.
A divorced woman feels resentful, abandoned and betrayed, especially if the divorce was initiated by a man.
It is quite understandable that being in such a state, a woman wants her ex-husband to experience similar feelings. One of the means to an end is using the child, turning him against the father. The best thing a man can do in this situation is to give his wife time to rethink everything, come to her senses, and get out of depression. Only when the woman realizes the divorce and begins to calm down, you can try to build a constructive dialogue with her about your child. Speak in a calm tone, do not allow aggressive behavior in her direction, build a conversation only about your relationship with children, do not sort out your personal relationships, as such behavior can only aggravate the problem. It is necessary to make every effort to achieve this goal.
How to behave with a child
Success in building relationships with a child largely depends on the mood of his father, how he behaves with him.
Despite all the attempts of the mother to turn the child against the dad, the man must find the strength to communicate with the child.
Explain the situation to your child, but try to do it in a non-judgmental and neutral way. In no case do not blame your ex-spouse and refuse negative comments in her direction. The child should see that you treat his mother with respect, as this is very important for him at any age. Try to make contact as often as possible and spend more time together.
When building a dialogue with children and ex-wife, you should be patient. This is a very long and painstaking process. In search of answers to solving your problem, you can seek help from psychological literature or consult a good family psychologist.
