Now two children in the family evoke almost the sympathy of the majority of acquaintances and friends. It's not even worth talking about three, the mother of three babies is a mother-heroine! And men are often against the birth of a second child.
Children are the real, physical embodiment of the spouses' love. When planning the birth of a child, you need to consider the situation from all sides, evaluate all your capabilities, because a child is not a toy, not fun. Caring for him (especially at first), development and upbringing will take up almost all of the mother's time and a large share of the father's leisure time. Unfortunately, in modern society, families with one child are more likely the rule than the exception.
Situation one - the second child in the plans
So, you are a young woman firmly convinced that your firstborn desperately needs a sister or brother. But the spouse quite unexpectedly gets into a pose and does not want to hear anything about it. Try not to get hysterical and blame your husband for all sins at once. Listen to him, perhaps her husband's arguments are fair and sober. Do not forget, it is he who will have to feed, dress and shoe 4 people. The situation in your spouse's service is probably not the right one, and you just have to wait a bit. Explain that the second child will not be as expensive anymore.
Firstly, you will not buy as many useless unnecessary things as you bought for the first child (the mistake of all debutante mothers), and secondly, you may have a crib, stroller, bathtub and other large household items.
If the fact is that the spouse simply does not want unnecessary fuss and selfishly protects his peace, put forward counterarguments. Explain that a sister or brother will be your child's best friend for life. That two children are unlikely to grow up to be terry egoists - from childhood they will be taught to think about a brother or sister, share with them, take care of them.
Inform your husband that while you are young, it will be easier for you to raise two children and provide them with decent care.
You found out that you are pregnant
The second situation, when the second child already exists, while still in your belly and at the age of two weeks from conception, is significantly different from the first. After all, we are talking here about the health of women. Abortion and everything connected with it, in the future, is often the cause of infertility. And if, after a while, your spouse decides on a second child himself, it may simply not work out. Also, the moral aspect should not be overlooked. No matter how you feel about abortion, the embryo is already a person. Few women with children can decide to terminate their pregnancy. And if they do, then moral torment often leads to a nervous breakdown.
Your spouse, if he is a reasonable, delicate person and, most importantly, loves you, should in this case leave the choice to you.
