“Shyness is not a disease or a vice,” you say, and you will be right. It is believed that shyness in general suits girls and is almost a virtue. In fact, this trait is much more common than we think. And not only in children. It's just that adults have learned to hide and hide their shyness.
Initially, every child experiences self-doubt and under normal circumstances, over time, calmly comes out of this state. Parents should not fight such shyness, this is a normal age-related manifestation of a child's awareness of himself.
But there are also cases when the child's shyness does not disappear, but only intensifies. Let's figure out step by step why this happens, and how to prevent it. First, you need to pinpoint that something is wrong with your child. It is possible that he just loves solitude and does not get bored alone. A child in need of help looks like this. He experiences difficulties in communicating with peers, and sometimes with adults, suffers from the fact that he is lonely, and reacts extremely painfully to any criticism - he withdraws himself and withdraws into himself. In the environment of strangers, he behaves extremely constrained and is lost when all attention is paid to him.
What if your child fits the second description? It's simple: you need to support him, imperceptibly from himself, to raise the baby's self-esteem. Try to keep him busy with what he can do, and praise after each successful one. If something did not work out, first praise it anyway, and then, as if by chance, offer to do the same, but in a slightly different way, thereby correcting the error. Let's give an example. If a child has drawn a flower upside down, do not laugh and run to show his drawing to neighbors and spouse. Praise the kid for the chosen color, size, proportions, and then offer to draw with you not a chamomile, but a rose, but in the correct order.
The child should be aware and understand that it meets your expectations, even when he brings a bad grade from school. And the fact that you scold a child is not a criticism of his personal qualities, but a desire to make him even better. Remember how many times you said the phrase "and the neighbor Kolya, at your age, already ties the laces himself, removes the toys himself, and always helps mom." It turns out that the kid from childhood feels that he is not good enough for his parents, not like the neighbor's boy. This feeling develops and transforms into self-doubt and in adulthood.
