Now everyone has telephones, and telephones have instant messengers, and many couples, unfortunately, have forgotten how to live a good separation - one of the most interesting periods of a relationship. It is difficult to imagine the real, as it was before, separation from a loved one, because video communication costs a penny and is available to almost everyone.
The great La Rochefoucauld remarked well: “Parting weakens a slight infatuation, but intensifies a great passion, just as the wind extinguishes a candle, but blows up a fire. Temporary separation is useful, because constant communication gives rise to the appearance of monotony. This brings us to a balanced and healthy relationship, which is conventionally called “This is not a scientific rule, which means it works.
The fact is that the brain is arranged in this way: when there is a desired object, but there is no way to get it right away, this object begins to "drill" the brain with signals in the form of pictures, representations, imagination begins, internal dialogues … The brain begins to twirl the desired object like this and so, thereby strengthening neural connections with the desired object - with you.
If you do not delve into the intricacies, the essence of neural connections is as follows - if psychic energy (thoughts) often pass along the same paths (an inflamed man remembers you every minute), energetic neurons connect with each other by synapses and dendrites; that is, a truly anatomical restructuring is taking place in the brain so that it is more convenient for the man's brain to think about you. This process is amplified many times over during separation.
So, if you are texting in messengers, the man's brain does not build complex and deep connections with you, because it does not think that you are somewhere far away and you cannot be reached. Correspondence in messengers is not considered separation. Therefore, in the words of La Rochefoucauld, the fire is not fanned.
Details in the book by Santiago Ramon y Cajal "Neural or reticular?", Nobel laureate.
Also, spending time apart is generally beneficial for couples. Those who spend all their free time together will soon either break up or change their behavior. When you are not together, do not correspond endlessly. Be moderate in your phone calls. This will give you the opportunity to truly miss and talk about "everything in the world" when you are together. Separate timing provides balance in the relationship.
Instead of endless messaging, try experimenting. For example, revive the glorious tradition of love letters. Yes, now is not the time and so on; at the same time, no one bothers you to play, and the input data are as follows: you and your loved one are away, you take a sheet of paper, a pen and, naturally, write a love letter by hand. Your beloved does the same. If one letter is not enough, write two. And then when you meet, you read them to each other. Firstly, you will have something to do with the pause between acts (and what else are you going to do after a long separation?), And secondly, there will be something to tell your friends about, it’s for sure men don’t write love letters to them, the maximum they can do - supposedly indecent pictures.
Understand that when he misses you, he thinks about you. He thinks about his feelings for you. Isn't that what you need?
