Many parents spoil their young children and often carry them in their arms. It comes to the point that babies can no longer even fall asleep without motion sickness. You can ignore this while the child is still small, but when he grows up and does not want to fall asleep on his own, this becomes a big problem for parents. It becomes difficult for moms and dads to walk around the room with a child in their arms and rock him before bed, so they try to wean him off of this as soon as possible.
To disaccustom a child to fall asleep in his arms, you should first offer him some kind of alternative. The transition should be gradual and smooth. First, have the child see you, but lie on the bed. You can even sleep with your baby so that he feels your presence, but at the same time is not in your arms.
After a while, you can “replace” yourself with a plush toy, so that the child still feels the presence of something warm and soft, and you can sleep peacefully in your place. If the child begins to be capricious, then you do not need to pick him up. Sit next to him and tell him something, such as a story, in a calm, soft voice. Thus, you will calm the baby and lull him to sleep without swinging in his arms. And already in the process of growing up, the child will become more independent, and will not require much of your attention.
It is easy to wean a child from falling asleep in his arms by surrounding him with other interesting things, for example, toys. But still, while the child is small, you should not wean him too much. Take time for him, for he has the right to a happy childhood. The choice in raising a child is completely yours. You can take him to sleep with you, and then arrange his own bed, surrounding him with toys. Or you can put his bed in your room and pay attention to him even at night, which will not be comfortable for you, but comfortable for him. Indeed, in the early period of life, a child has the right to attention at any time of the day, for that he is a child, and his upbringing is not an easy task.
You need to know some balance between kindness and strictness. And depending on him to do different things, including weaning the child from his hands. Whether it is worth doing this or waiting is up to you. And the main thing is to decide correctly for your family, so do not make a mistake when taking such seemingly petty, but at the same time important steps. Anyway, good luck with that.