When raising a baby, you need to adhere to certain canons of raising a small child. This is not the case with a teenager. You will need to adjust to his emotional and physical state so as not to harm your understanding, which is very fragile when your children reach adolescence.
Be a parent, not a friend or playmate
Get out of your mind that you can become your daughter's girlfriend or your son's friend. This is not at all what the teenager wants from you. Real friendship will come later. Of course, it is necessary to maintain spiritual closeness, but friendship is not at all conducive to this. Undoubtedly, it is allowed to say to a teenager: "You can tell me anything you want, I will not scold you." But what will you do if a teenager tells you something really harmful to him and you are forced to condemn him? Yes, it is necessary to communicate with a teenager on different topics, but do not give him hope that you will help him in everything.
Be persistent in your views, values, and rules of conduct. Know, there will be resistance from the teenager. Real life is that adolescence is a time of not-so-safe experiences. Nature is to blame for everything. The part of the brain that is responsible for making decisions is just beginning to form in a teenager. But the part of the brain responsible for impulsivity is actively developing. In simple terms, it is difficult for a teenager to make the right decisions and resort to common sense. So, the task of the parents will provide help to the child in this - to do part of the work for him. The teenager must realize: you are his mother, not a friend, and for all the closeness of the relationship, if the mother said "no", then she meant a firm "no."
Keep up with your child's development
YouTube, Social Media, emo, goths … Aren't you able to spend your time with something more interesting? Your child is addicted to this, in which case you should be. Keep in mind: get carried away in order not to lose a spiritual connection with him, and in general, connection. Reinforce this connection by sending small funny SMS messages from time to time to your child's mobile phone. This will help you stay in constant contact with your child. And on social networks, join his circle of friends. This will show you what your teen is fond of, what information and photos he uploads to social networks.
