According to statistics, a fairly large percentage of adolescents begin their sex life precisely in this adolescence. How should parents respond?
First of all - take it easy
Most parents, learning about their child's first experience, react to this fact as an irreparable disaster. Nevertheless, it is important to calm down, to understand that nothing terrible actually happened.
You have to accept it as a fait accompli - if a teenager has a sexual experience, it is no longer a child, but almost an adult. Prohibitions and punishments are useless here. Moreover, you should not kick the child out of the house or, on the contrary, isolate him from the world, as happens in some cases. Treat carefully and carefully the feelings of your child, do not destroy his brightest feeling - first love, do not break life.
Whatever happens, do not reject the teenager, support, answer the questions of interest and provide the necessary help. The most important thing is to maintain a relationship of trust!
How to talk to your teen about their first sexual experience
However, an appropriate conversation between the parents and the teenager should take place, At the same time, it is imperative to talk when your emotions subside. Don't scold or blame. Be as tactful as possible - this is an equally difficult conversation for your son or daughter.
Your main task is to understand how serious the teenager's feelings are and how much he realizes his responsibility and the possible consequences of his sexual contact. Whether the teenager is aware of contraception, whether he is taking precautions. After all, adolescent desire for risk and the desire to "try everything" can lead to neglect of the latter, or perhaps there was simply no one to tell about them?
There should be no taboo topics in communicating with a teenager
Your teenager should be prepared for all aspects of adult life, including such an important topic as the relationship between a man and a woman. Moreover, it is too late to start conversations on the topic “where do children come from” with high school students!
In conversations with adolescents, special attention should be paid to the issues of contraception, the risk of unwanted pregnancy and abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and HIV - that is, the formation of responsibility for their own health and the health of a partner. “Street” presents information in a very one-sided way - so a teenager usually knows more about sex itself than parents, but knows nothing about contraception.
In this regard, it is important for parents to understand that the safety of a teenager depends largely on how fully and timely the relevant information was brought to him. And it is the parents who should convey it, without shifting responsibility to the school, and even more so, not letting the situation take its course - "he will find out later himself." It is a consequence of the latter attitude that a revelation, unexpected for parents, is that their child already has a sexual experience.
