The upbringing of a boy and a girl is very different. In order to raise a real man, it is advisable for mothers of sons to adhere to several simple, but very important rules.
Compliance with these rules is not so difficult, many of them may seem so simple that it seems like it is not necessary to follow them. However, it is not. If you are thinking about how to raise your son as a real man, try to remember them always.
Never make fun of your son
A woman's ridicule is disagreeable to any man. The mother's mockery is a deep trauma for the boy. And even if it seems to you that the reason is frivolous, incorrectly dressed pants, or a drawing, or a declaration of love to a neighbor's girl, be extremely careful. He will remember your caustic remark for the rest of his life. And besides the fact that the son will not tell you anything more and will not show you, he will stop trusting you.
Answer all your son's questions
Do not dismiss empty phrases "grow up - you will know". He needs your answer. If you don't know, say so. Find out and share the knowledge with your son. Did his question make you blush? Great, now you have learned that you have a complex and need to work on it. But do not create these complexes for your son. Answer as simply and clearly as possible.
Ask your son for advice
The boy must be consulted in making decisions. He will have to decide all his life. And take responsibility for your decisions. And secondly, you have no idea how simple his answers to your difficult adult questions can be. What you would have puzzled over for months, you will find out in two minutes. "What should be our future apartment", "why am I fighting with someone all the time?" and "what am I doing wrong?" Thank your son for the advice. Let him see that you respect and trust him.
Do not say the words "I told you so !!!"
You realized that you were right, but your son was not. Great, congratulations. he will understand everything himself. You're not competing with your son, is it? He now needs support from you, not a jab by your superiority. By the way, the child's dad shouldn't hear these words from you either.
Praise your son
Praise often, but on occasion. Without any "but" and "here you need to fix it." Over time, he himself will understand where there is something that needs to be corrected. And from his mother he expects admiration and recognition of his merits. Give it to him.
Support his dreams
Even if they seem funny and unreal to you. If he wants to be an astronomer - buy books and show a film about the stars, if he wants to be an artist - buy paints and paint with him. Do not be afraid that it will grow up windy. He will grow up diversified. And in reality he will be determined in life at the age of 18-20.
If the son is crying
Comfort. Here's what you should do. No matter how small the problem may seem to you, for him it is a big event, moreover, an unpleasant one. To whom else should he carry his feelings? Take care of these feelings and take pity on your child. He should not cry inconsolably - never. For this he has a mother.
Don't lecture your son
Never again. This is not only useless, but even harmful. Show everything that you want to convey to the child by example.
You are on his side
Always. You are his support and protection. Then someday he will become a support and protection for you. No conditions or qualifications. In the store, in front of teachers, in a dispute with strangers - you are always on the side of your son.
And then, perhaps, he will come to you with a question, "what is sex" or "how to invite a girl out on a date." Because he knows you won't scream or laugh at him. Because he trusts you.
