Family life can change over time: you look at your partner and understand that this is no longer your person. Illusions, created long ago and not embodied in reality, are crumbling. Or just you and your husband have changed, becoming strangers to each other. Having a common child forces you to be together, but from time to time the same question pops up: what to do next?
Instructions
Step 1
Be honest with yourself. Tell yourself what would you do if you hadn't had a child together? Would you refresh your relationship by doing a reboot, or would you part with your partner and live happily without him? Very often it is difficult for a woman to leave a disgusted family because she wants to be an ideal wife in her eyes and an ideal mother for a child. Mingled with everything else is the condemnation of society, parents and friends. But think, are you ready to sacrifice your interests and the life you want to live for the sake of public opinion and ideals? If you live with your husband only for the sake of the child, then over time you will have a lot of complaints about the growing child. After all, you will blame him for an uncomfortable life. What is better for a child: to live among the constant claims of biological parents or in a family with a stepfather, but where do adults love each other?
Step 2
Trust that you can find happiness a second time. Many women with children in their arms find worthy men and get married. Take care of yourself and your figure, update your wardrobe. Take a closer look around. Life is not over.
Step 3
Talk to your husband. Try to solve everything amicably. Remember that a breakup is very painful for both parties. Spare the feelings of the one with whom you have been together for a long time. Try to peacefully resolve the issue of who the child will remain with after the divorce. If the relationship is over, and you do not want to resume it, then you need to gently but clearly state this. Your hesitation and doubts can give your partner hope for a renewed family life. Therefore, be strong in spirit: once you have decided, then this is better for you. Try to stay on good terms and be allies in solving children's problems.
Step 4
Whether to allow the spouse to meet with the child after the divorce (if the child stays with you) is a reason for joint discussion. In any case, the father, according to the law, has every right to see his child, participate in his life and financially support. You can enter into an Agreement with your ex-spouse on his rights and obligations in relation to the child, which also prescribes child support. If the father affects the baby negatively, then the rights of this parent to participate in the upbringing may be limited through the courts. In this case, be prepared to provide evidence to the judge. In this situation, the opinion of the child is also taken into account if he is more than ten years old. Whether to deprive the spouse of paternal rights legally is up to you and the court. If your spouse is an adequate person and you have a good relationship, then you may not have such thoughts. And if the relationship with the ex-spouse is hostile, keep in mind that while maintaining his paternal rights, you will have to coordinate a lot with the child in relation to the child. For example, to take a baby abroad, you will need a written permission from the dad.
Step 5
If the parents cannot come to a consensus about who the child stays with, then this issue is decided by the court with the participation of the guardianship and guardianship authority. When considering such cases, the degree of attachment of the baby to the father and mother is taken into account, as well as the possibility of creating normal conditions for life and raising the baby by the parent with whom the child remains.
