In any quarrel, it is best to come to a consensus so that neither side feels like a loser and disadvantaged. This way you can maintain harmony in relationships and peacefully resolve any conflicts. But reaching consensus is not easy; it requires composure and minimal negotiation skills.
Instructions
Step 1
Give up the desire to be a winner. In a dispute between loving people, there are no winners, only losers. By infringing and offending your partner, you feel guilty, so you will not feel the joy of victory. Think of quarrels not as a battlefield, but as a negotiating table where you can discuss a problem and work together to find the best solution.
Step 2
Keep your emotions in check. In the heat of a quarrel, defending your interests, it is very easy to succumb to feelings and transfer the conversation to mutual accusations. But this tactic will not help you find a solution, it will only create new problems. If you feel that you are not ready for a conversation, it is better to postpone it for the evening or another day. During this time, you can calm down and think about how to resolve the conflict peacefully.
Step 3
Deal with your desires, clearly realize what you want to get in the end. What solution to the problem would suit you without hurting your loved one. In many issues, solutions can be found that are comfortable for both parties. For example, if you like different genres of music, you can listen to them one by one or use wireless headphones. Think, try to find ways to solve the problem peacefully.
Step 4
Sit down and talk calmly. Remember - your goal is not to get your way, but to find a solution that suits both parties. Offer options in turn, discuss, but do not be too critical. Sometimes you can give up a little on the nuances in order to reach a consensus. But there should not be a situation when in each quarrel one person gives in, and the second gets what he wants. Each side should feel content.
Step 5
When the best decision has been made, discuss all the points for implementing it in life. There are situations when in theory everything sounds great, but in practice there are unforeseen difficulties, it doesn’t work out the way we wanted, or someone doesn’t follow the plan.
Step 6
Try to resolve all conflicts according to this scenario, then there will be harmony and happiness in your relationship. You will stop quarreling, and after a while all your problems will be resolved quickly and amicably, because it will become a habit.
