The woman's mind is such that she needs to constantly analyze the events and changes that happen to her and the people around her. And it is desirable that these changes are in positive dynamics, otherwise it will continue to bother the woman for a long time.
Anything can serve as an extra reason for analyzing any events in a relationship: a watched film or TV show about family relationships, a friend who shared her experiences. All this makes a woman critically look at her relationship and most often doubt it.
Of course, such analyzes, first of all, concern the closest people - husband and children. Since women have been the keepers of the hearth since ancient times, they do their best to preserve and improve the atmosphere in the family. For this reason, they tend to succumb to doubts and insecurities, including in themselves. Hence the jealousy, resentment against the husband, accusations of his failure and unwillingness to protect and develop relationships. And the light scent of someone else's women's perfume on his shirt, even if it was slightly hugged by his sister or an old friend, becomes another reason to completely lose confidence in his man. Caring for relationships imperceptibly grows into a desire to control.
Are you going to check his cell phone, and from the doorway you arrange a body search and scenes of jealousy? Leave this activity immediately! Stop calling him at work every hour to ask how he is doing and when he will be home. Don't rummage through his personal belongings.
If you want to control a man - do it right, without destroying the remnants of your former happiness.
If you're worried about something that you can't handle on your own, don't worry about it alone. Share with your husband, he needs to know what's going on in your thoughts. Do not forget that you and him are one inseparable whole, and in order to maintain trust in each other, you must solve all problems only with him.
Your man, like your children with him, needs your attention and warmth. So give it to him. Always be affectionate and welcoming, gentle and caring to your spouse. If necessary, depriving him of this warmth for a while, he will instantly react and do everything to return it. This way you can manage it carefully. Keep the relationship warm and he will help you with that.
Remember that both of you are not children for a long time, and it is too late to try to educate and radically change your man. You married him, which means, respect your choice and do not doubt its correctness. Accept your partner for who they are. Give him the opportunity to sometimes be alone with his thoughts or friends, succumb to small weaknesses, such as watching a match on Friday night. Let your man feel comfortable and free next to you, and this will doubly return to you in the form of his gratitude for the fact that you love his real one.
Do you think that your man is too lazy for this, and you yourself drive in nails for frames? Don't let your doubts eat away at women's pride. You have a husband, and he will cope with everything if you push him a little. Be gentle, fragile and defenseless. Tell him how strong, courageous and economic he is, how he knows a lot of things and knows how. Encourage his pride too. The man will try to prove it to you, and all you have to do is complain a little that the door to the bathroom creaks for a week and a half, and your “jack of all trades” will immediately rush to fix it.
Remember the last time you went out to a cafe with your beloved friends? And when did you forget about household chores even for a day and enjoy shopping or pleasant procedures in a beauty salon? So arrange it for yourself! This will once again distract you from unnecessary doubts and will make your husband a pleasant surprise when you, feeling pleasantly tired, return home beautiful and well-groomed. Keep yourself in good shape, always watch what you wear and how you look, be as wonderful as on the day of your first date. No reasonable man wants to leave a beautiful, confident woman.
Have you decided to punish your husband with a lack of intimacy? Bad decision. You have to keep his fire going and his desire to pursue you. Be affectionate and passionate, surprise him. A romantic dinner after a hard week, seductive linen and relaxing music. Don't let sex become a chore. Let it always be a joy for your spouse, so that he feels at his best. A satisfied man will easily follow your lead.
Be gentle and diplomatic. Smile when speaking to him, rather than raising your voice at him. Strife will only increase the distance between you, and therefore always address him gently and kindly. Manipulate a man using both your voice and correct phrasing.
Remember: while controlling a man, remain a real woman, and then your relationship will not fade even after decades of marriage.
