Fights are normal, frequent fights are the problem. Sooner or later, they can lead to a rupture. If you are constantly fighting with your loved one, you need to change your behavior in order to maintain the relationship.
Instructions
Step 1
Solve the issue without scandal. If you see that the atmosphere is heating up, then do your best to prevent a quarrel. Do not provoke your loved one and do not succumb to provocations. If one of you stops, the other will have to stop too. Don't lose control of your emotions, keep yourself in control. Anger, resentment, aggression will only aggravate the situation, so stop swearing in order to discuss everything calmly.
Step 2
Listen to your loved one. Usually in quarrels, each repeats his own, not paying attention to the partner. Hold back and let the other half speak. Listening can prevent fights early on. Therefore, the main thing for you is not to speak, but to listen. If your partner is silent or you do not understand something, then ask. It is better to find out everything at once, otherwise misunderstanding will give rise to new quarrels.
Step 3
Speak up, but only if you feel that your partner is ready to listen to you, and after he has finished. Speak calmly without raising your tone. If you started talking, you need to tell each other about your dissatisfaction in order to sort it out and make peace. Do not hide your feelings when the conversation is built on a confidential note, otherwise sooner or later they will splash out.
Step 4
Look for the cause of the fight. Perhaps disputes arise from scratch (is it worth swearing over an unwashed plate), or, on the contrary, it seems to you that the reason for the quarrel is stupid, while the partner meant something completely different (irresponsible attitude to duties, for example). If the reason is serious, then do not seek solutions to the problem during an argument - talk to your loved one later.
Step 5
Don't remember past grudges. When you are angry about one thing, you don't have to be angry about everything. If you are not talking about a specific act, but operate with the words "always", "never", "every time", then you only aggravate the situation. Don't insult. Out of anger, you will utter a lot of hurtful words that your beloved may not forgive you later. Do not touch the quick and do not hit the weak point, otherwise you will completely quarrel.
Step 6
Accept some of your blame by not blaming your partner. Remember, two are to blame for the quarrel, so analyze your behavior, find mistakes and try not to repeat them. Don't try to be right and win the argument. Find a compromise, come to reconciliation. Try to end the fight on a positive note. And even in such an unpleasant situation, do not forget to say: "I love you."
