A loving woman wants her man to remain faithful and always be with her. And, of course, she worries about the fate of their relationship. But still, the fear of losing a loved one is more inherent in women in a society where a man occupies a dominant position. In Russia, too, for many centuries, there was a cult of men in families, and the inner conviction of a woman that she is worthless without a stronger sex has settled on the genetic level. But in the 21st century, it would be worth getting rid of such a phobia.
Instructions
Step 1
If you understand that this fear prevents you from living and feeling normal, then this means that you have already taken the first step towards inner freedom. Try to drive away negative thoughts from yourself, because if some feeling takes possession of your whole being, you stop thinking rationally. And if you don't think, then you are doing a lot of stupid things and, perhaps, saying stupid things, than annoying the man to a large extent, since he, most likely, simply does not understand what is happening.
Step 2
In some cases, fear recedes if you speak well. Thoughts clothed in verbal form lose their sharpness, and the soul becomes easier. Try to find an attentive psychotherapist who will listen to you, teach you to reason differently and give a number of practical tips on how to behave in a relationship with a man.
Step 3
Sometimes a married friend, an older woman and more experienced in family affairs can act as a "psychotherapist".
Step 4
Try to understand why you are afraid. You may have already gone through a tough breakup and don't want it to happen again. Then you should once again analyze your past experience and draw rational conclusions. Don't repeat your mistakes.
Step 5
If the reason for your fears is that you are insecure and underestimating yourself as a person, try to work on your qualities. For example, identify and write down in a column your advantages, for which you should be loved and respected, and disadvantages. Don't know how to cook? Who's stopping you from taking a culinary course and learning how to do it professionally … Not attractive enough? Play sports and learn how to use makeup. Think about how and what you should dress … Just do not do all these things for the sake of your loved one. You need them to increase your self-esteem.
Step 6
Make sure your love is mutual. If, after much thought, you come to the conclusion that a man simply does not love you as much as you do, then whether you are afraid of losing him or not, but the breakup is quite possible. Honestly admit this bitter fact and stop being afraid.
Step 7
Your life belongs only to you, and in no case should you dissolve in the interests of the man you love. Look for activities that you personally enjoy, and do not waste time with silly thoughts and doubts. If you have other hobbies and passions (friends, movies, painting, dancing, sports, etc.), you will not be so dependent on a man.
Step 8
Take care of your intellectual development. Read more and explore new areas of expertise. You don't need to become a "bookworm" or a scientist to do this, but absorbing new information, you will feel more confident and competent. You will respect yourself more, and your man will be more interested in you.
Step 9
Imagine the worst: he left you. And after the first panic attack, when the ability to think back to you, think: so what? Life does not end there, there are many other interesting people around whom you have no idea about now, and you are still a smart and attractive woman … Imagine how many opportunities freedom gives you.
Step 10
If you really love him, let him go in search of a better destiny. And not because you are a masochist or so kind. Simply, many men, sometimes unconsciously, play on these fears with women. And if you do not cling to him, as the last hope in life, then perhaps by this very "hook" him more. There are losses in life, you should be ready for this, but you should not worry about something that may never happen. Appreciate your happiness today.
