Relationships with loved ones are sometimes the most valuable thing in life. But a habit can crowd out feelings, and then there is a risk of losing a loved one. In the modern world, people increasingly value individuality or independence, because of this they do not make concessions. But if you remember about compromises in time, then you can save the relationship that is expensive, and fix everything.
Instructions
Step 1
Very often people forget about the main thing in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. It is forgotten why a man and a woman meet or live together. Living together displaces feelings into the background, affairs and concerns become not the consequences of relationships, but an end in itself. Think about it: your loved one probably doesn't enjoy seeing your frowning face all the time. Even if you think about pressing problems and try for both of you, remember that you need to be able to enjoy life out of life. Take care of yourself: maybe you got into the habit of sawing your life partner for garbage that was not taken out in time, for forgotten dirty dishes in the sink? You should not play for a loved one the role of his mother or mentor. If he is constantly delayed at work or is looking for excuses to disappear from home, then he no longer feels joy next to you.
Try to switch from everyday little things to your own feelings and sensations. Do only what is necessary. Forget moralizing and reproaching. If you need help from a loved one, do not "nag" him with enviable regularity, but ask him. And reward the request with a smile, hug, or kiss - just like you did in the early days of your meeting.
Step 2
Add variety to your daily routine. Sometimes the routine seizes everyone. Then melancholy appears regardless of whether a loved one is nearby or not. It is necessary to break the usual scheme: home-work-home-work-shops, and again home … Yes, it is not so easy to show spontaneity when there are obligatory things to do. Try to start small. On weekends, instead of sleeping until lunchtime, get up early in the morning and go with your loved one for the earliest session. A comedy, a fantastic action movie, or an intelligent melodrama will do. On weekdays, instead of your usual homemade dinner, go for a bite to eat at any place that you find cute: a diner with good hamburgers, a Japanese restaurant, an ice cream parlor … An unfamiliar place, new people, the choice of new dishes will have a positive effect on your general mood. You can even change the usual route you take to get back from work. Make an appointment with your beloved man in the park, take a long walk, listen to birds singing instead of announcing subway stops. You will come home late, but you will be much more rested.
Step 3
Make it a rule to say everything. Let's say you stopped blaming your loved one for forgotten bread. You make pleasant surprises for him, bring variety to your life and rest. But the relationship still leaves much to be desired. Challenge your loved one for a frank conversation. Let him express what does not suit him. In turn, do not accumulate dissatisfaction with some things, voice them. But such conversations should be constructive. Don't appeal to guilt. Don't manipulate others. Tell us how you feel. Admit the differences that exist between you. There is no need to be ashamed or afraid of this - all people are very different, and you should not be copies of each other. And then try to find a joint solution that suits you and your loved one. Learn to feel where you should compromise and where you can stay unconvinced.
For example, you agree to learn how to cook tomato soup, without which your loved one cannot live. But instead of going to the forest with tents, you can go visit your relatives in the cottage, which, unlike the forest, has all the amenities. While respecting your partner's interests, learn to trust him as well. A confident life partner attracts more than a suspicious friend who calls into a forest tent asking if there are any stranger girls there. Build your relationship on trusting communication.
