In modern society, more and more often there are men 30 years old and older who have never been married, have no children and, most importantly, do not want to start a family. What motivates such people? Let's try to figure it out.
Why is it no longer a young man who does not want to get married and does not want to have children? Modern girls have been asking this question quite often lately. Let's consider two typical scenarios and try to identify the root of the problem.
As a rule, such men do not have a female attention deficit. But they do not dare to decide on a serious relationship. Or they just don't want to. Why?
By the age of 30, a person fully develops his daily lifestyle - habits, values, guidelines. To let another person into your world means to destroy your usual system or make serious adjustments to it. It is very difficult for people with a selfish note in character to take such a step. At this age, in order to decide on drastic changes, you need at least "madly in love". As a rule, youthful romanticism loses its strength by the age of 30 and it is not so easy to meet your “eternal love”.
… It is difficult for such men to let a woman into their lives or decide to start a family due to low self-esteem. Perhaps, in his youth, such a person had a failed experience of a serious relationship, which psychologically greatly influenced the further development of his relationship. As a rule, such people direct all the forces of emotion into achieving material goals, sports, etc., as if proving to themselves and others that he is the best.
… A man is simply afraid of the prevailing stereotype: marriage-child-mortgage-home-work-home. This speaks of his lack of confidence in his abilities as the future “breadwinner” of the family. When asked about starting a family, he replies something like "I haven't earned it yet!"
Perhaps the man is not completely sure of his choice and hopes in the depths of his soul that he will still meet that "only slender, intelligent beauty who will not pester him with quarrels and claims." In this case, the woman who is nearby should seriously think about the presence of true feelings of a partner in relation to her or reconsider her views on your relationship.
