Personal life is one of the most important components of human life in general, since there is no escape from the primitive instincts of procreation. In addition, a single person tends to be significantly less happy than people with a well-established personal life. The only problem is how to be successful on the personal front.
Instructions
Step 1
Personal life is generally understood to mean a romantic relationship, and not an individual component of life itself. Accordingly, success in personal life implies the presence of a companion or companion, which in the future develops into family relationships. However, many people live their entire lives alone, sometimes diluting it with short-term chaotic relationships. This happens for several reasons, the main ones being low self-esteem and high demands.
Step 2
A person who is not able to love and accept himself can hardly hope for exalted feelings on the part of someone else. There are many ways to increase your self-esteem and become more self-confident. However, first you need to understand why you do not love yourself. As a rule, the set of reasons for not liking oneself is rather limited. Most often, it includes a lack of education, physical attractiveness, low-profile or low-paying jobs. In principle, all these problems can be easily solved, if there is a desire. You can enroll in courses or a correspondence department of the university, do self-education, go to the gym or just run in the morning, find a part-time job, or learn to be proud of your professionalism. The point here is only in motivation and the ability to objectively assess. Once you start to feel better about yourself, you will develop the confidence and calmness that will surely attract people to you.
Step 3
The opposite side of the coin is the overstated requirements for the partner. Numerous polls show that people often find their happiness in those who at first sight did not correspond to their ideal ideas at all. This happens not even because the ideal is very difficult to achieve, but simply for the reason that all people are much more difficult than someone else's ideas about them. In the case of overestimated requirements, you should try to objectively assess whether you are capable of meeting the desired set of qualities. You can, of course, dream of the daughter of a billionaire, working as a loader, but even the likelihood of your meeting will be so low that it will be too optimistic to regard it as real. At the same time, in fact, there are a huge number of smart, interesting and beautiful people around you, and in order to get to know them better, you just need to give up the idea that you will only meet with a former supermodel, a Harvard graduate and always a natural brunette.
Step 4
If you treat yourself well and do not make excessive demands on others, and your personal life is not going well, try to understand why? Maybe you are looking for your soul mate in the wrong place or are you choosing not the best reasons for dating and topics of conversation? It helps a lot in such cases to have a friend of the opposite sex who can look at you through the eyes of a potential partner and suggest what the problem is. Finally, keep in mind that the worst way to arrange your personal life is to do nothing and wait. It is possible that while you are not doing anything, someone is waiting for you to take the first step.
