Parents want to raise their child as a worthy person, and, naturally, they are very upset if their children do not meet their expectations. Even with a competent approach to education, at times children begin to lie, often upsetting their parents. How to wean a child from lying.
Young children, kindergarteners and junior schoolchildren usually fantasize a lot, scientists perceive this fact as a certain stage in the mental development of a child. Kids often invent virtual friends and various situations that did not exist and cannot be in real life, this is due to watching cartoons and hobby for computer games. Having heard such tales from children, you should not scold them, and it is advisable even to connect to their game, to come up with a plot and scenario of events together. The child will be immensely happy with this turn, and the parents will feel that the baby has begun to trust them more.
But you need to be able to distinguish a child's fantasy from a banal and impudent deception, when a child gives out any deliberately untrue information to achieve some of his goals. Here
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In order to make the child a versatile personality, most parents enroll the child in all kinds of circles and sections, over time the child begins to get tired, exercising at the limit of his capabilities. The child begins to skip circles, ignore workouts, forget about some homework. The student tells his parents about his successes in one area or another. Children do this in order not to upset their parents, to justify their hopes, to arouse the pride of mom and dad. In order to avoid such situations, you should not overload the child too much, choosing the next circle or section, you need to consult with the child, along the way finding out whether he likes this kind of activity and whether he will find time to attend this or that event.
The modern rhythm of life forces parents to work hard to ensure a normal life for themselves and their children. Often, babies greatly lack parental attention, and here a banal lie is used, children talk about feeling unwell, complain of headaches and nausea, and so on. As soon as the parents begin to worry, stroking, caressing and kissing, then all symptoms immediately disappear. If a similar situation has been repeated several times, think about your behavior, maybe your child simply does not have enough attention?
Failures in school or sports groups can be blamed on other students or participants, sheets with poor marks are torn out, and torn trousers are hidden away in the closet. Parents are also often the provocateurs of such lies, you do not need to scold the child about or without it, but it is better to sit next to and think about how to get out of this situation.
It's no secret that many women raise their children alone. Toddlers and older children tell their peers tales that their dad is a long voyage captain, astronaut, geologist, or a deceased hero. All this is done in order not to feel like fatherlessness and to rise a little in the eyes of friends.
Sometimes parental misbehavior can make a child want to lie. For example, your phone rings and you see the number of a subscriber with whom you would not like to communicate, you pull the phone to the child and in a whisper ask him to say that mom and dad have gone to the store, visit grandmother, paint the batteries, and so on. The child, seeing how easily the mother lies, no longer thinks that this is shameful, and easily lies that to get out of the awkward situation.
Be the best friend for your child, often say that he is the most dear to you and that almost any situation is solved with minimal losses. Talk about the fact that the truth is above all, that no one will punish the child. Be sure to say that any lie will become obvious over time, that deception will not save the situation, but only temporarily postpone an unpleasant conversation. In no case should you scold a child if his guilt is not proven. The presumption of innocence has not yet been canceled, even in such a childish and ridiculous situation.
