Children's tantrums are not uncommon. It starts around the age of two and is the result of a child's search for ways to communicate with people to get what he needs. Usually, hysteria in the behavior of a child disappears by the age of four, but sometimes it manifests itself at a later age. To deal with it, you need to act consistently.
Keep your composure
The biggest mistake parents can make is to respond to a child's tantrum with their own tantrum. You should have a calming effect on the child, if you cannot restrain yourself, there is no point in expecting peace of mind from the child. When your child throws a tantrum, calm down, listen to him and take a few big breaths before making any decisions.
The reason for the hysteria
In most cases, parents believe that the child's tantrum is his attempt to achieve his goal. However, this is not always the case, the cause of hysteria may be, for example, lack of proper attention or physical illness (digestive problems, low blood sugar, etc.). Lack of sleep and malnutrition can also be the cause of hysterical behavior. Determine the exact cause of the tantrum before you start fighting it.
Give your child a choice
If your child is having a tantrum demanding things, you don’t need to just say “no” to him. Instead, give him a choice, for example, if he eats candy too often and asks for it all the time, tell him that he will either eat it at the table or be punished. Always praise him if he makes the right choice. Choice helps the child see the consequences of his actions.
This approach often yields results with children 2-4 years old and does not work well with older children. The sooner you start teaching your child to choose their own behavior, the better.
Adequate answer
Depending on the reasons for the tantrum, it is necessary to act accordingly. If the baby is sleepy or hungry, feed and put him to bed as soon as possible. If he is afraid of something, try to calm him down. If a child asks to play with him, do not refuse him, this indicates that you do not pay enough attention to him. However, in no case give in to the child if the hysteria is the result of a whim, otherwise you will develop a habit in him to achieve his only in this way. Let him know that you will only talk to him when he calms down. Only after that start discussing his problems with him.
You cannot limit yourself to rewarding your child for good behavior. He must feel and know that bad behavior will definitely be punished.
Don't argue
Never argue with your child if he continues to show violent discontent and the tantrum continues. Instead, tell him words that describe his emotions. For example: "You must be tired today" or "You must be very upset that you do not have this." Such words will show him that you understand and sympathize with him, and they will also help him express his thoughts in the future.
Talk to him about his behavior
Talking to a child about his behavior during a tantrum is useless. Leave this conversation for later, but be sure to talk to him. Try to find out from him why he behaves this way, but do not pressure him, the child should feel that you love him anyway.
