Conflict of a teenager is a problem that all parents face. How can parents cope with it with minimal loss?
Be patient
Even if the child was distinguished by exemplary behavior, then conflicts in adolescence are inevitable. After all, a child becomes an adult, feels the need to declare himself, tries different ways of behavior. His social circle is expanding, new interests appear, which may differ from what is accepted in the parental family. Therefore, show patience and understanding: adolescence is a difficult period, but it passes quickly!
Identify the cause of the increased conflict
Teenage conflict is a natural phenomenon, but still, parents need to carefully understand the causes of conflict. This will facilitate mutual understanding. In addition, it is important to understand that a teenager himself may not always fully understand what is happening to him, not yet having the experience of an adult. Therefore, parents should act as experienced mentors and help the teenager understand himself.
The reason adolescents are conflicted often lies in their unstable self-esteem, the desire to assert themselves and assert themselves. Conflict is often a reflection of problems in relationships with parents. If there is an atmosphere of constant conflicts in the family, then the child simply reproduces this model in relations with other people. Therefore, raising and trying to fix a conflict teenager, parents should be aware of what kind of example they themselves are for the child.
How to deal with a conflicted teenager?
- Teach your teenager to control his negative emotions - anger, aggression. You can introduce him to psychological techniques that will help control emotions. Sports activities, interesting hobbies and hobbies can also help relieve excessive psychological stress.
- In no case do you respond to the child's aggression in the same way, do not allow yourself to communicate in a raised voice, shout at the child, insult him and derogatoryly say no.
- If possible, try to get away from conflict, show an example of finding compromises, give your child the opportunity to gain experience in a positive and peaceful resolution of disputes.
- If the conflict has already occurred, try to calm down, calmly discuss the current situation.
- Do not try to blame, and do not try to make excuses or make excuses for the teenager's behavior if there is no reason for it.
- Discuss conflict situations with your teenager, do not put pressure on nago, but try to bring him to the realization that you are wrong.
- Make your teen responsible for their actions.
- Don't be afraid to ask for forgiveness if you know you were wrong.
In other words, behave from the perspective of an adult, not allowing yourself to be drawn into conflict over trifles. And respect the right of an almost adult child to their opinion, while teaching him to find compromises.
