Every person, regardless of gender, age, social status, wants to find happiness and find love. But as soon as Mendelssohn's march dies down and it seems that here you have found your destiny, problems begin to appear that spoil life and poison happiness. To avoid this and build strong relationships, you must first understand the causes of problems and conflicts.
The main causes of problems, oddly enough, for many people are the same. And they are often passed down from generation to generation.
The first and main reason is the lack of strong relationships between parents. No matter how strange this argument may seem, it is 100% true. If parents' relationships are built around children, everyday life, or simply because it is too late to change something, then a child in such a family forms a disturbed value system. Having created his family, he automatically transfers this relationship model to her. Or, realizing that it is wrong to build a family in this way, he begins to chaotically build his own system of values, in which life and others make their own adjustments.
This is where the next problem comes from. When young people with different value systems create a family without discussing with their partner what they want to see it, they begin to rebuild each other for themselves. If they are two strong personalities, they begin to fight each other on a daily basis, which leads to hatred, violence and divorce. And when one is morally weaker, then he simply yields to the strong and as a result lives constantly depressed, and the second, in turn, believes that he is so loved, not paying attention to the emotional state of the partner. From the outside, it seems that this is a good couple, but there is no love in their relationship.
Another of the most common reasons is maternal love. It seems that the very words "motherly love" are sacred. Yes, but only when they focus on a mother's love for her child. Very often, this very love is not based on love, but on a sense of ownership, broken hopes, dissatisfaction in personal life. And then the mother begins to fit into the family of her child, preventing him from building his life. In a desire to draw attention to herself, she does not notice that she is poisoning her son's relationship. Also, the reason may be that the young mother switches all her attention, tenderness and care to the child, pushing her husband aside. A man, trying to return the attention of his wife, begins to be jealous of his own child. And having failed to restore the old relationship, it moves away. The woman begins to take offense - after all, she did nothing wrong. So they continue to live, irritating and resenting each other.
To avoid such problems and build a happy relationship based on love and respect for each other, you just need to build a common value system with your partner. And only then will the relationship be happy, and no one will be left forgotten, deprived or offended.
