It often happens that with the closest people we have a situation of seemingly complete misunderstanding. All this leads to quarrels, conflicts, stress, significantly complicates communication and life in general. The age-old problem of fathers and children, in fact, is not so insoluble, if you approach it with a certain amount of rationality and calmness.
Instructions
Step 1
If a family scandal is brewing, first exhale, calm down and clear your mind as much as possible from a possible desire to aggressively respond to your parents' attacks. This will help you focus on the real problem, and not on the emotions that the problem caused.
Step 2
Listen patiently to all claims addressed to you. You should not interrupt and start proving your truth, much less do it in a raised voice. Control yourself, think over every word. Imagine that you are at work or at the university, and your task is to resolve the conflict in your favor as competently and with the least loss as possible.
Step 3
Objectively assess the essence of the conflict. Where you were wrong, where your parents may have been wrong. Do not be afraid to admit your mistakes, because with loved ones there is no place for pride.
Step 4
Speak calmly and make it clear that you care about how relationships with your parents will be built, how important it is to you, and you want peace. Be honest with yourself and your family.
Step 5
In no case do not withdraw into yourself and do not be offended. Resentment tends to settle in the human soul and grow like a tropical plant. Be open, communicative, your parents will feel your positive attitude, and you will see how their degree of boiling gradually decreases.
Step 6
The best way to understand another person is to take their place. Imagine what thoughts your parents might have about a conflict situation, how they see it, perhaps they do not know something or have incorrect information.
Step 7
Take into account the emotional state of your loved ones. If they come home tired from work, they had a bad day, have mercy on them, do not be selfish.
Step 8
If you cannot agree in any way, do not prove your truth with foam at the mouth. Remember that in any case, you and your parents need to find a compromise. This is an important word that testifies to your ability to make adult actions and decisions.
Step 9
Typically, this balanced approach to conflict ends with an important family conversation, and many reasons for misunderstandings are clarified. Discuss them together and be sure to draw conclusions for yourself for the future. And remember: it is with peace in the family that peace in the whole world begins. Be frugal.
