The problem of "fathers and children" has not yet been resolved. We rarely think about why a conflict arises between parents and children, and most importantly, how to extinguish the flame of discord. Some trifle interferes with a good relationship, which over the years can cause a complete misunderstanding of relatives.
Necessary
- patience
- savvy
- firmness in oneself
Instructions
Step 1
Whenever there is a conflict with a child, think about what motivates the child's behavior. Even if you do not notice the reason, it does not mean that it is not there. Very often the child is not satisfied with his psychological needs, he lacks your attention, love and affection.
Step 2
What can be done to avoid conflict? Psychologists advise to be more attentive to the child. For example, you are asked to buy another toy. By simply saying “no,” you will let your child know that you are indifferent to his desires. Try to shift your attention to another subject, distract from the thought of buying. Or imagine the following situation: a child draws on wallpaper. Instead of scolding, give him paper and teach him to draw an animal.
Step 3
A common conflict situation is a child's tantrum. It is advisable to do everything to prevent such a strong surge of negative emotions. To do this, you need to talk with your baby more often about his desires, mood, fears, behavior and responsibilities.
Step 4
Criticize your child correctly. Evaluate only behavior: "You misbehaved." When debriefing, try to soften criticism: “You got a deuce today. This is certainly bad, but I know that tomorrow you will try and get a good grade."
