Yesterday your child was obedient and affectionate, but today it was as if a demon of contradiction possessed him, which so pushes the baby to spit, be stubborn and throw tantrums. What to do, but not to be led by emotions and not to break down on the child, ruining the day for him and for yourself?
If the situation allows, try to ignore the little brawler. Do not look at the child, do not contact him, go about your business, not letting him out of sight. The kid quickly loses interest in demonstrative behavior, having lost the target audience. Once he calms down, be sure to emphasize how much you enjoy his good behavior.
If the aggravation is just brewing, then you can try to switch the child's attention to something other than the subject of the quarrel. Whether it will be a bright toy, an unexpected trick or, by the way, a car honking, decide for yourself. The phrase may even help: "Oh, isn't it a fox's tail just flashed in the window?" The whims will be forgotten.
Is a child in the heat of a quarrel ready to hit the offender or even you? Hugs will help. Grab the baby in an armful, hug him tightly. Say in a firm voice that his behavior was wrong. The child, sensing your persistence, will gradually calm down.
Encourage him to strive for independence! Give yourself a choice: eat scrambled eggs or scrambled eggs for breakfast, remove toys before or after a walk. By "consulting" with your child, you will make him feel important and deprive him of any reason to be capricious.
Do not get carried away with abstract concepts, tell the child your requirements in simple and clear words, ask him to repeat what you ask him. The tone of your speech should be friendly and calm. Children feel subtly when you start to lose their temper, which further irritates them. Always explain why you don't like his behavior, and don't just state a fact.
If you have to threaten a child with punishment, do it only when you are really ready to fulfill the promise. If, having softened, you buy prohibited ice cream, turn on cartoons or take a brawler to the zoo, be prepared for the fact that your words will not be taken seriously and the following whims will not be stopped in this way. Use threats and punishments themselves, and behave consistently if you have to apply restrictive measures.
Listen actively to the child, show that you are always ready to support and take part in his little problems. Take a break from business, go down to the level of the child's growth or put him next to you, assent, clarify, demonstrate your interest. This habit of friendly communication serves as an excellent prevention of uncontrolled conflicts with children.
