In every family, there are disagreements between children and parents. Yesterday your child wanted to receive mom's kisses, but today his mood is not so friendly. And here you need to try not to break away from resentment and not go to shouts, spanking, and so on. Since no mother is decorated with hysterical screams and tantrums, and also does not make the child happier. We need to try to solve this issue in a different way.
To make the child understand you, talk to him so that his eyes are on the same level with yours. First, ask a question about what he is really interested in at the moment, and try not to turn the conversation into harsh interrogation, refrain from the desire to condemn, criticize what is of interest and dear to the child for a given period of time.
When contacting the child, respond to his answers, comment on them. Ask related questions. In no case do not allow your dialogue to be cut off if you really really want to come to a common opinion with your child and so that there are as few disagreements as possible.
Another mistake parents make is when, when communicating with a child, favorite expressions rooted in the vocabulary are pronounced. These include: “… most of my life has been lived. I understand much better what to do in a given situation. In this case, parents should think about the fact that that period of time is gone, the world has changed, and in this new modern world, in order to survive and achieve some success, it is necessary to act differently than 5 or even 15 years ago. After all, everything changes every second.
A child born in a new time, not in the same way as the parents developed and grew up, adapts to the new world. Modern children know how to adapt and survive in the new world in order to feel comfortable. And the primary task of parents is to be there if they need emotional help. In this case, they should hug and thus show that the family is near, that children can rely on love and support.
Give the kids an opportunity to learn to rely on themselves. Let your daughter and son start from childhood to learn from their mistakes. This will give the child self-confidence already at a young age.
Of course, parents will have to work hard to find a format of communication with a child that would suit the members of the whole family. Learn patience and do not be quick-tempered when they do not understand something, spoil or confuse something. Don't waste time with reproaches and lectures. Unfortunately, our children grow up very quickly. And you will soon remember the time spent together with great warmth and tenderness.
