On a long life path, different people meet, and at first glance it can be very difficult to understand whether this is your person. You need to communicate, get to know each other better. But how can you then explain to him that your relationship is a road to nowhere?
Reasons to stay
Love, like many other feelings, has an expiration date. Unfortunately, few are lucky enough to experience love to the grave. It seems that everything is calm and good in life, but one morning, waking up, you clearly understand that there is a stranger next to you, that the relationship has reached a dead end - you need to leave, but you do not leave and torment yourself and him. Why?
One of the common pretexts is habit. You are accustomed to this person, you know what to expect from him, how to live with him and conduct a dialogue. But you can't build a relationship on the ashes of past feelings. Don't look back - look to the future.
Women are afraid to go into the unknown, to a new man. There, beyond the border, it is not clear how the relationship will begin to develop, there will be ups and downs, and here it may be lousy, but everything is clear in advance.
The biggest fear of women is the fear of being alone. This applies to women at any age. Surprisingly, many of the fairer sex cling to a man as a last hope, even if, apart from swearing and mutual claims, nothing else binds them. Such a relationship should certainly end and quickly.
You need to learn to love yourself, part with unnecessary things and people, raise your self-esteem to the proper level.
Desire to be the center of attention. All complexes originate from childhood. The girl, once disliked by her parents, compensates for the previous lack of care with the current hopeless relationship, giving the man unfounded hopes for the continuation of the novel. Such girls need to be loved and adored by absolutely all familiar and unfamiliar men.
Leave and not return
You need to clearly realize and decide for yourself that you do not want the continuation and further development of the relationship. There is only one way out - to complete the novel completely without any reservations.
If you cannot understand yourself, internal torments on your own, contact a psychologist, at whose reception you can tell the reasons for your worries. And he, in turn, will help you sort out your feelings.
Keep a personal diary in which you can record all incoming emotions, feelings, thoughts. After rereading the records with a fresh mind, you will probably understand what exactly you want.
When you decide to take such an important step, think about your partner as well. Such things cannot be said at once. Prepare for the conversation. Choose neutral territory - a small restaurant or cafe, a crowded place where you cannot give free rein to your senses.
Try to explain as accurately as possible, calmly, without raising your voice, to the chosen one, why your relationship is at an impasse, and you do not want to continue. Put a point: develop all doubts so that in the future the person does not bother you with calls and messages, feeding groundless hopes.
Of course, after a breakup it is impossible to remain friends, but try not to bring the relationship to a sworn feud.
In order not to break loose and not try to return everything, take the new free time with something useful: sports, yoga, cooking or sewing courses, learning foreign languages. Soon, sick emotions will recede, and you will begin to live a measured life.