Financial turmoil and lack of money are the main causes of domestic scandals. A significant part of women are unhappy with their husbands' salaries, and if a woman herself earns more than her husband, expect trouble.
If the wife earns more, is the husband to blame?
One of the cornerstones of marriage is mutual respect. And this is where the problem lies, often because of stereotypes, personal attitudes and other important things, respect for a man is formed on the basis of his financial situation and financial capabilities. It is believed that if a woman earns a lot, and her husband does not, then he is a loser, parasite, henpecked and quitter.
Strange, but true - from Internet conferences, psychological seminars and trainings one gets the impression that the only criterion for evaluating a man is money.
So, first of all, for a comfortable coexistence in such a situation, it is necessary to change the coordinate system. Surely, you have a lot of things for which you can respect your husband - he is ready to sit with children, cooks great, loves his job, does what he loves, saves the planet … You should not operate with outdated clichés. And in no case nag your husband if he is trying to change the situation or is simply proud of you and does his best to support you in your work.
More salary - more problems?
But if the husband reacts negatively to his wife's salary in every possible way, experiences complexes and is tormented, something needs to be done about it. Otherwise, the current situation can undermine the marriage gradually and lead to divorce.
If the husband is annoyed by the current situation, he should think about looking for a new job and new sources of income. If he does everything possible for this, stock up on calmness and patience, the situation will change, and everything will work out in the family.
Do not share information with friends and acquaintances at work that you earn more than your husband. This can lead to misunderstandings.
Well, if your husband does nothing, but constantly criticizes you (complains about a lack of attention to him and his beloved and children, grumbles about the mess, thinks that you cook too rarely), you need to understand the real reasons for the situation. It is possible that your man is happy with the current state of affairs. Firstly, he has no financial problems, and secondly, he can endlessly blame his wife on all the existing discontent. Psychologists believe that similar problems arise when male pride is wounded.
Unfortunately, all recommendations in this situation are addressed to women:
1. Be sure to discuss your situation with your husband.
2. Don't take your husband's help with housework for granted. Praise and thank the man when he washes the dishes, vacuums, or does laundry. Ideally, women's work in the field of the household should also be rewarded with praise, but women are easier to put up with its absence.
3. Agree that the money (or part of it) is kept in a special place from where you and your husband can take it.
4. Never compare your husband to successful friends or relatives. This hurts the pride very much.
