When a person is asked: “What is love?”, He often describes the primary emotions from meeting a person: a flash of passion, an adrenaline rush, etc. But, according to psychologists, love has several stages. And the feeling that the relationship has come to an end is not always true. In reality, most likely, love has moved into a "quieter" stage. The main thing is to maintain respect and tenderness for each other at a certain stage.
A man in love draws the image of a loved one in rainbow colors, taking for the truth all manifestations of character at the stage of courtship. Overwhelmed by the desire to please and conquer the object of passion, a person himself begins to believe that he is so ideal. Then, when all the masks fall off, the man and woman are horrified to discover that they are living with a completely wrong person. However, instead of pushing away the "stranger", try to re-examine your chosen one - what if there are many other interesting features in him?
No wonder they say that relationships are an everyday contribution and development. A few simple tips will help to maintain love ardor:
1. Leave irritation at the door. Problems at work and other troubles should not be a reason for a breakdown on loved ones. If you want to share a problem - do it tactfully, ask for advice, and do not blame your soul mate for all the troubles.
2. Show concern. Life is built on little things, so don't forget about the little family joys. Covering a sleeping person with a blanket, hugging a crying person, buying your favorite sweets on the way home, or replacing an exhausted shaving cream are seemingly insignificant actions, but a strong foundation of relationships is built on the combination of such actions.
3. Do not deny intimacy. Refusal without specifying a reason is perceived on a subconscious level as a personal motive: "They don't want me." And sooner or later, a person will go looking for sexual pleasures on the side. Try to explain the reasons for your reluctance - fatigue, discomfort, etc. Find solutions together. Think of sex as the best way to relax together, enjoy every caress.
4. Learn to amaze. Do not get stuck in the swamp of routine and everyday life, try to periodically bring something new to the family way of life: new furniture, a new method of raising children, a new form of recreation. Develop and change yourself: hairstyle, clothes, tastes, etc. Also notice the tastes of your loved one and try to match.
5. Respect each other's loneliness. Sometimes it is worth being away from each other in order to listen to inner desires. Do not impose your company on a loved one, learn to entertain yourself, and then they will be drawn to you as to the light.
