Psychologists pay special attention to the problem of relationship crises that occur after the wedding. So much has been said and written about these problems that people are no longer in a hurry to get married, because the fear lives in their souls that the relationship will fall apart immediately after a magnificent celebration.
But it is not only in marriage that there is a crisis in the relationship. Quite often, this crisis attacks people even before marriage, especially if they often meet. It is believed that love lives for three years, then it is eaten up by everyday life. Flowers are offered only on holidays, sex only happens on weekends. The young couple are no longer shy to show themselves in front of each other in stretched sweaters and with beer. To solve this problem in a relationship, you need to identify the cause.
Causes of quarrels and misunderstandings
The most important reason for leaving love is banal boredom. In order to somehow diversify their relationships, young people begin to find fault with each other over trifles, such as slowness, loud stomping with their feet, chomping, open mouth during sleep, etc.
The second reason for conflicts can be the inability to devote oneself to oneself. The second partner is constantly present, there is no way to be alone with yourself.
Long-term relationships without a hint of their logical conclusion, that is, marriage, can cross out your love. Because of this, there are endless nagging at each other about and without a reason.
In fact, the longer the relationship lasts, the less likely it is to get married. Partners get used to each other so much that they no longer perceive themselves as potential husbands and wives. Rather, they become friends (or enemies, which is more likely).
How to solve these problems
As soon as such a crisis occurs in your relationship, they should be legalized. This will relieve you of boredom. At least a month or two. While you are preparing for the wedding, solving the numerous problems associated with preparing the celebration, bothering to ensure that everything is of the highest standard, there will simply be no time for boredom. As a result, your relationship will sparkle with new bright colors.
If the crisis has already entered such a phase that a breakup is likely to come than a wedding, then try to avoid omissions. Be clear about what you want from your relationship, from your partner, what does not suit you. Instead of being silent and accumulating resentment and irritation in yourself, discuss with your beloved everything that is painful and troubling to you.
Arrange for yourself one day of personal time when you can take care of yourself. If you already live together, then organize yourself a personal space where you can relax and think.
Think about why you fell in love with your partner, not why you are ready to stop loving him. Love in life is hard work. You need to be ready to do crazy things for the sake of the relationship. Loving someone is not at all as easy as it seems. To love means to sacrifice oneself in something, gradually drawing closer to the beloved.
Everyone has their own
There is no one-size-fits-all advice on how to maintain love before marriage. Each couple has their own reasons for disagreement. But if you value each other and your love, then these disagreements will seem like something insignificant.
The most important thing is to respect each other and build your relationship on mutual understanding. If there is no mutual understanding yet, then it can be achieved through conversations. Work on yourself, make plans, solve problems together. If you solve minor conflicts, they will never develop into major disagreements.
