Raising a teenager is not an easy, delicate matter. Therefore, you should familiarize yourself with the common mistakes that parents often make.
Instructions
Step 1
Unquestioningly obeying parents, fulfilling all their requirements, for a teenager means recognizing himself as a child, so he will protest in every possible way, do everything in defiance of his parents. The teenager refuses to accept intrusive advice, and especially to follow direct instructions. You cannot force a teenager to comply with your requirements, and even more so punish for disobedience. During this period, learn to negotiate with children.
Step 2
There is no need to try to be ideal people in the eyes of the child, without flaws. Do not pretend that you have never made a mistake and do not understand what the riot of youth is. Instead, share personal experiences with your children. Talk about different situations related to your youth, about the difficulties you faced and how you got out of these situations. This will make it easier for the children to trust you, realizing how much you are like them and able to understand and support.
Step 3
Just as excessive control of a teen's personal life is inappropriate, so you should not completely ignore the child's activities. The fulfillment of their formal duties is not enough for the full-fledged upbringing of a teenager. Parents must constantly form norms and moral values so that the child does not look for them outside the family. Communicate with your child, participate in his life, gently guide him in the right direction.
Step 4
You should not overly patronize the child, try to meet all his needs and demands on time, strive to protect him from all possible problems and difficulties. Adolescence, the time when a child enters adulthood and he needs to learn to overcome obstacles on his own.
Step 5
Too harsh measures of upbringing, harsh punishments even for minor offenses, have a bad effect on adolescents. Thus, a negative attitude towards adults is formed, active attempts to rebel and confrontation are formed. In the future, such children grow up to be cruel, unbalanced people.
Step 6
If a small child appears in a family, this does not mean that a teenager should be perceived as an absolutely adult person who does not need care and attention. Emotional rejection on the part of the parents makes the teenager closed, unsociable, the child accumulates grievances, which later expresses in the form of open aggression.
