Situations when a teenager does not live at home and periodically runs away from his parents, psychologists consider a child's defensive reaction to an unfavorable home atmosphere for him. To solve this problem, you need to understand the reasons for the escape and eliminate them.
Instructions
Step 1
In the process of identifying the reasons, do not throw tantrums, do not threaten or use force against the child. Many parents mistakenly believe that if you hide your child's belongings and accompany him everywhere, he will stop running away from home. Such pressure will only strengthen his desire for an independent life.
Step 2
Analyze what has recently changed in family relationships. Often the reason for the escape of adolescents is the divorce of parents or the appearance of a new family member. When the child is no longer given due attention, he looks for him on the side.
Step 3
Create comfortable conditions for him at home. Recover lost contact in the form of partnerships and trusting communication. Ask for advice, make him feel like an equal and full member of the family, who has some responsibility for her.
Step 4
The reason for the escape of the child may be the need for attention or the requirement to fulfill any desires, a new computer, a phone, etc. The purpose of such demonstrative escapes is to be found and returned, i.e. thus draw attention to your needs. Take all the child's requests seriously and do not ignore their attempts to share their feelings with you. If you cannot fulfill his request, find the right words for explanations, but in no case do not "dismiss" them. Teenagers take all the words of adults literally.
Step 5
In some cases, a child's desire not to live with his parents can be caused by the usual boredom, daily routine. Due to the peculiarities of the adolescent period, the child feels the need to try his hand, to become on a par with the adult. Organize leisure activities together, but not a shopping trip or a trip to the country. Find entertainment on the verge of extreme: jump with a parachute, raft down the river and go in for other types of tourism, where you need to show your strong-willed qualities and physical strength. There, the child, overcoming difficulties, will be able to test himself and understand the danger of uncontrolled experiments with his life.
Step 6
Escape as an imitation of the hero of a film or novel can be realized if the child often hears from his parents that at his age someone participated in hostilities, was left without parents and fed his family, etc. Those. comparing a teenager to more independent people of his age may make him want to prove that he is no worse. Avoid such statements, they do not benefit the educational process, rather the opposite.
Step 7
Overprotection or, conversely, excessive pressure also contributes to the escape of the child from the parents. Give him a certain degree of freedom: he has the right to his personal space and things that belong only to him. It is impossible to present a child at this difficult age with high and impracticable requirements, for example, to be always ahead of everyone in school, in sports and other activities. And even more so - you cannot severely punish him for failure to comply with certain requirements.
Step 8
Sometimes, neurological diseases such as epilepsy can cause a teenager not to live at home. If you are trying to create comfortable conditions for your child, and he continues to run away from home, contact a neurologist. And if you cannot establish the cause of the escape, consult a psychologist for advice.
