Psychologists are sure that over the years it becomes more difficult to build friendships. So, if in kindergarten it was enough to share an afternoon snack in order to acquire a new friend, then already in adulthood you have to resort to small tricks and strategic moves in order to get a new friend.
It is necessary
- - addresses of accounts of the object of sympathy in social networks
- - information (including informal) about the object of sympathy
Instructions
Step 1
Try observing a young man to whom you are planning to propose friendship. In his circle of trust, there are likely to be people whose character traits are most appreciated by the object of your sympathy. Thanks to such an analysis, it will become clear what qualities a young man values in people, to which environment he prefers. At the same time, one should pay attention to all the nuances, ranging from the education and social status of the young man's close friends, and ending with their external data.
Step 2
Conduct reconnaissance in force, observing the object of sympathy on social networks. Be extremely careful and remember that some social networks "give out" curious users, recording their stay on the page with a note in the column "Guests". If you want to keep your interest in a young man a secret, get by with those social resources where there are no guest lists or ask your friends for a short time to use their accounts.
Step 3
Exchange phone numbers and account addresses in instant messaging systems and social networks with the young man. This step will allow you to get closer to the object of your sympathy and always stay in touch with him.
Step 4
Offer your target some cute, friendly entertainment that you think they love. So, a young man can be called for a cup of coffee, to the cinema or for a walk in the fresh air. It will not be superfluous to come up with leisure activities based on his preferences. For example, if a young man is fond of outdoor activities and not sports, then it would be appropriate to ask him for a morning run or a leisurely bike ride after work. Agreeing to such friendly leisure activities will be the first step towards building a close friendship. After spending time together in an informal setting, the young man will perceive you differently, even if he himself does not pay attention to it.
Step 5
Pay attention to what the young man says when he is depressed and gloomy. The degree of his frankness will depend on the traits of his character, but if you can convince your interlocutor of sincere interest, then be sure that in 10 minutes he will lay out all the worries of his life as if in spirit. But this method will work only if you and the young man have already developed at least a friendly relationship or close contact on a professional basis. In general, if a young man begins to share his experiences with you, this already speaks of close and close contact.
Step 6
Start a conversation with the young man about the fact that you are experiencing certain communication difficulties and it is difficult for you to make friendships. Continue the conversation by listing the qualities that you value in people. End your thought with a diplomatic phrase that the young man gives the impression of a person with a high moral system of values, that you have a lot in common. At the end of the monologue, ask a question about whether he can get friendship between you.
