The relationship between mother-in-law and son-in-law is a favorite topic for anecdotes. But conflicts between these two people by no means contribute to peace and well-being in the family. How can this problem be solved?
The calmness of your family is the main motive for trying to mend a relationship with your mother-in-law, because both your well-being and the well-being of your wife and her mother are at stake. And most importantly, finding a common language with a mother-in-law is not so difficult.
Try to listen
There is nothing strange about older people trying to teach young people. Even if your mother-in-law's advice seems more than absurd to you, still listen to them very carefully and seriously. Do not interrupt, do not shout that you, anyway, will do everything your own way. You can agree with her and do everything the way you want. But if you agree, then the problem will be practically solved, do not forget about it.
Show interest
It is sometimes worth taking an interest in the health of your wife's mother. Periodically ask how she is doing. You need to pay her a little more attention, and she will immediately notice it and her attitude towards you will gradually change. But, of course, not right away.
Mother-in-law is also a woman
Do you spoil your spouse sometimes? So do not forget about your mother-in-law. Delight her on a typical day, present flowers or a box of chocolates. You probably only remember her on her birthday or on the eighth of March. Everyone knows that it is incredibly pleasant to receive gifts for no reason. So if you are already carrying a bouquet to your wife, work hard to please your mother-in-law. This will delight her, although she may well not show it.
Dedicate her to your plans with your wife
It is not at all necessary to tell your mother-in-law about all your affairs, but sometimes it is still worth sharing plans. Mom will understand that you are making contact. She is also interested in how you care for her daughter and, of course, she wants to know if her blood is good with you.
No jealousy
Even if it seems to you that your wife spends too much time with her mother, do not worry. Your mother-in-law is the closest relative to your wife. Just explain to your spouse that you are not happy with this without causing scandals.
Do not scold your wife
With mom, you only need to praise your beloved, even if at the moment she does not really deserve it. It is better to express your dissatisfaction to your wife in private, but to tell your mother-in-law that her daughter is the best cook on the planet is always welcome. Such conversations will benefit everyone.
