Not always, a mother-in-law can become a good friend and mentor for her daughter-in-law. There are several types of mother-in-law who are almost impossible not to take offense at. There are some tips to help you find a common language, or at least avoid conflict with your husband's mother.
Instructions
Step 1
Treat everything that happens with humor. Imagine that everything that happens between you and your mother-in-law is just a part of a banal comedy film in which you play the main roles. Laugh at yourself and at her.
Step 2
If the mother-in-law, without your knowledge, has made changes to the interior of your apartment or ironed her husband's things, great. Do not treat this as an encroachment on your territory. Relax and enjoy this help.
Step 3
If your mother-in-law begins to criticize you, try to divert her attention to something else. For example, invite the children and ask them to read a poem you learned for her. Parry her attacks with a friendly smile.
Step 4
Remember that confrontation will not lead to anything good. The mother-in-law is likely to report to her son that you offend her. Therefore, pour out the accumulated grievances somewhere on the side. Go in for sports, for example.
Step 5
Try spending more time alone with your mother-in-law. Take a walk in the park, go to the theater or shop. Let her know that you can become friends.
Step 6
If the mother-in-law is openly hostile, ask her directly what exactly you do not suit her. Explain to her that you love her son and want the best for him. The main thing is to do it calmly, without aggression, so as not to provoke the mother-in-law to insults and not to aggravate the situation.
Step 7
Be patient and don't expect instant results. Sometimes it takes many years to win the favor of a mother-in-law and not be offended by her.
Step 8
Remember that for many years your husband has been at the center of another woman - his mother. Perhaps when you have children of your own, you will understand what drives your mother-in-law and what fear she feels, knowing that another woman has appeared in her son's life, who can minimize his communication with his mother. Therefore, you should not take offense at your mother-in-law and enter into a conflict with her, because she has every chance to destroy your relationship with your husband. You don't know which side he will take in a conflict situation between you and your mother-in-law.
