A quarrel with a father can arise for various reasons, but in any case, it is necessary to look for ways to resolve the conflict. Patience, tact, a desire to improve relationships with a loved one - these are the components of success on the path to reconciliation.
Analysis of the causes of the conflict
A conflict situation with someone close to you, as a rule, causes strong emotions in both participants in the quarrel. You, like your father, may experience resentment, anger, irritation, fear, and other negative experiences. To get rid of them, you need to resolve the controversial situation as soon as possible.
Try to start by objectively analyzing the reasons that led to the quarrel with your father. Who do you think is to blame for this situation? Why? Remember that, in addition to obvious reasons, your parent could be guided in their actions by some hidden, unknown motives. Perhaps he wanted to do what was best for you, but did not take into account some points.
If it seems to you that your father has no right to make mistakes, remember that he is the same person as everyone else. You should not demand too much from close people, you should not idealize them either. Remember that there is not a single perfect person on Earth, everyone makes mistakes at least once in their life.
Steps to Reconciliation
Invite your father to talk. If he does not agree, do not insist, most likely, the person is simply not yet ready to discuss the current situation. Wait for the right moment and try again.
If your father agrees to talk, choose a time and place convenient for both of you, where no one will disturb you. Think in advance about what you will tell him. You should not start a conversation with reproaches and accusations if you believe that your father is to blame for the conflict. Try to calmly and clearly explain your point of view. In the conversation, emphasize the moment that you are grateful to your parent for his valuable advice and care for you, but you have already grown up and have the right to choose your own path, even if it is wrong, on your own.
If your father is too authoritarian about you, gently point out to him and tell him that this overprotection and mistrust hurts you. Make strong arguments and arguments to support your point of view. Hold on firmly and confidently, while you should not break into a cry and get involved in a verbal skirmish. It will not be superfluous to remind your father of his youth, that he, too, probably made mistakes. And if you are really wrong, then you will take full responsibility for your mistakes.
In the event that you have offended your father and regret it, sincerely ask him for forgiveness. Tell him that you were wrong, that you love and respect him.
Reconciliation with your father will be facilitated not only by serious and calm conversations, but also by any manifestations of your love and respect towards him. And it is better if they are expressed not only in words, but also in deeds. To smooth the situation, invite him on a fishing trip, do some other interesting business together.
Appreciate and respect your loved ones and especially your parents. Remember that they often do not show resentment to their children, silently suffering from their inattention, disrespect, etc. Learn to forgive - even if you think that the quarrel is not your fault, take the first steps towards reconciliation yourself.
