When creating a new family, young people have many questions. One of the most painful turns out to be housing. What gains and what does a young family lose when they decide to live with their parents? There are both pros and cons to this situation.
Saving. It is this fact that often becomes decisive in the choice of the question - to rent a house or live with parents. Apartments become more expensive every year, and not always a young family can afford to live independently. In addition, making serious purchases (washing machine, TV, etc.) is cheaper than sharing with parents.
Support. Providing a trusting relationship, the help of parents will be invaluable in many cases, for example, the birth of a child. And the spouses who have just graduated from the institute will be grateful for the support, faced with many financial problems.
Circle of friends. The more people in the family, the more opportunities for communication. Spouses who only talk to each other are very often oversaturated with each other's company. And as a result, quarrels and all kinds of nagging arise.
Personal space. If several generations live in the same house, then the limitation of personal space is a rather significant problem. All holidays have to be coordinated with the household, two housewives are trying to share the kitchen, and many other everyday issues arise.
Boundaries and Intervention: Living separately, a young family can set their own rules (when and who cleans, washes the dishes, etc.). If the family lives with their parents, it is very difficult to establish such rules, therefore, basically you have to adapt to the already established traditions. And sometimes listen to unflattering remarks: “Why does your husband prepare food himself? Why are you?"
Inequality So it turns out that one of the spouses lives in his own house with his parents, and for the other - this house is alien. It's great if parents are ready to treat both children on equal terms. If they take the side of one of them, be it their own child or the chosen one (chosen one), disputes and conflicts cannot be avoided.
Impossibility to grow up. It is very difficult to feel and behave like an adult while remaining under the care of parents, i.e. living under the same roof with them. There are few parents who are capable of treating their children as self-sufficient adults.
Whether you decide to live with your parents or live separately, remember that only you can set the boundaries for intervention in your family. And only you yourself have to make decisions. You should not neglect help and support, but you will have to earn the respect of your parents for your family. This is the only way you can create your own family!
