Ideally, each family should have their own home. Only now, not everyone has the opportunity to move to their own cozy apartment after the wedding. And in order not to postpone the wedding until retirement, you have to live for some time in the parental territory. It is possible to establish good relations with parents and not turn into heroes of jokes about mother-in-law and son-in-law. You just need to remember to follow a few simple rules.
Instructions
Step 1
Discuss all the conditions of your cohabitation before moving. Parents have their own well-established habits and traditions. They can wake up at six in the morning and turn on the TV loudly, have five cats, or invite guests every Saturday. Whether you like it or not, you will have to adapt, because the way of life developed over the years is not so easy to change. And is it worth it? As you know, one does not come to a strange monastery with one's own charter.
Step 2
Discuss the financial side of the issue. You have to pay for utilities, buy groceries and make cosmetic repairs periodically. Even if you have a very modest income, allocate from the budget the amount that you can spend on living in your parent's apartment. Thus, you will help your parents, and you yourself will not feel like freeloaders.
Step 3
Let your parents know when you intend to move out of their apartment. Even if your plans include graduating from college, looking for a job and several years of increased savings for the first mortgage payment, share your plans with your parents. They need to know that you think about your future and are not going to live with them forever.
Step 4
Discuss any problems as they arise. The more you keep silent about them, the sooner there will be an explosion of emotions. Why do you need quarrels and domestic wars? Parents also want to live in peace and harmony. In 9 cases out of 10, they will agree to discuss the problem with you and find a solution that suits everyone.
Step 5
Try to spend as much time as possible outside the home. On vacation, be sure to go to another city or abroad, get out into nature on weekends, meet with friends in the evenings. This will recharge you with positive energy, take a break from accumulated complaints and give your parents the opportunity to be alone in your home.
Step 6
Learn to treat other people's words and actions without irritation. If someone did not appreciate your dinner, forgot to close the toilet lid, or walked across the clean floor in dirty shoes - this is unpleasant, but not fatal, and certainly not worth your nerves, tears and resentments.
