It is often difficult for parents to admit that their children have grown up a long time ago. They are not at all ready to let their child go into adulthood. To maintain peace and tranquility in the family, take a detached view of your relationship and try to adhere to certain rules.
Instructions
Step 1
If you are greatly annoyed by the advice of the older generation, try to delicately and affectionately make it clear to your relatives that you have grown up a long time ago, now you will solve your problems on your own and live with your own mind. But this does not mean at all that you will less appreciate and love them.
Step 2
If you have to live on the territory of your parents or under the same roof with your husband's parents, try to follow the rules that exist in the house, to accept the lifestyle of the owners. In fact, living a large family is interesting if you are kind and flexible.
Step 3
Conflict is difficult in any family, but if you are not a party to the dispute, try not to take sides. By adopting the position of a mother or husband, you will only aggravate the enmity between the people you love. It will be much better if, having chosen the right moment, you try to defuse the tense situation with some funny phrase, tell an anecdote or a funny incident. Never convey what one side says about the other. For example, if your mother complains about your spouse, and he dislikes your mother-in-law. In such a situation, it is you who will get all the negative. It is better to invite your loved ones to act like adults - to express all mutual claims to each other in the eyes.
Step 4
If you can't get along with your parents under the same roof, do not hesitate to look for options for separation. The rule "the further, the dearer" sometimes helps to avoid conflicts and maintain good relations. In order not to provoke unnecessary interference of the older generation in your family, try to involve your parents in solving your problems only when you are absolutely sure that they will do it delicately, without invading your privacy.
Step 5
Guardianship of parents, their desire to control the lives of adult children is a fairly common phenomenon. Try to understand that a son or daughter will always remain children for a mother: both at the age of 5 and at 45. Despite the fact that sometimes it annoys you, try to be more tolerant. After all, while your parents are alive, you can at least sometimes feel like a child, and this is so often lacking for serious adults.
