The mother-in-law is feared and disliked by many women. But there is no need to demonize this image, because the mother-in-law is, first of all, a woman and a mother. And two adults and smart women will always find a common language.
If you want to make friends with your mother-in-law, do not expect a miracle or a sign from above, but just take the first step towards communication. Highlight for yourself what your mother-in-law can be respected and appreciated for, what she can teach you based on her rich life experience. And as for the shortcomings, try to close your eyes to them, because we are all imperfect.
1. Make friends at a distance. The most important rule of a wonderful and friendly relationship with the mother-in-law is living separately. Even if you have to rent an apartment, nerves and normal human relations are more important than unnecessary spending. If you and your husband had to temporarily move to his parents (due to repairs or just staying), do not dispute the primacy of the mother-in-law in her house, try to adjust to the schedule worked out over the years.
2. Appreciate her memories. There is no need to avoid communicating with your mother-in-law, believe me, she does not bite, even if she sometimes looks too harsh. If you are alone, ask how she is doing, what worries her at the moment. Take the initiative to show that you are open to communication and good relationships. A safe bet: viewing the family album. Ask for pictures of their family and childhood pictures of your husband. Believe me, a sincere and warm conversation is guaranteed!
3. Seek advice. Every woman and mother wants to feel needed. Therefore, if you have a little strained relationship with your mother-in-law, then never refuse her help. You can also ask her for advice, ask her opinion on a particular issue. If your mother-in-law's advice or idea helped you, do not forget to thank her for it.
Important! If you reject the help of your mother-in-law or do not heed the advice, be sure to justify your decision to her. For example, if she advises feeding a newborn child with semolina instead of formula, explain to her that modern pediatricians are against such a menu, show articles and videos on this topic.
4. Don't say too much. Remember that even if you have a very warm relationship with your mother-in-law, you should not tell her all the secrets and reveal family secrets. Especially if they concern your husband. First of all, he is her son and she will always protect him, even if, in your opinion, he was wrong.
5. Remember important dates. Your husband, like many men, may not remember the date of his parents' wedding, forget about Mother's Day. Therefore, write down all important dates in your diary or make reminders on your phone. The mother-in-law will be very pleased that you and your husband do not forget about the important days for her.
