Introverts often attract the attention of the opposite sex. Not talkative, not emotional "in public", they seem mysterious and full of hidden nobility, unassuming and comfortable in relationships. But is it?
If fate has brought you to an introvert, this is a great success for those who dream of an even, harmonious relationship, do not attach fundamental importance to a social career and everything connected with it. But in order for these relationships to strengthen and not disappoint, you need to learn to understand the introvert and not provoke anything that can complicate and spoil these relationships. Otherwise, you run the risk of falling into a situation of "disappointed expectations."
The love of an introvert is worth a lot. People of this type enter into serious relationships, as a rule, for a long time, do not squander their vital energy on frivolous flirting and connections "on the side". In conflicts, introverts do not kindle the fire of enmity, and their natural secrecy does not allow them to discuss their partners behind their backs, and even more so - they do not give "negative assessments" to their partners in intimate conversations with strangers.
It is important for introverts to have a comfortable and safe home. They are silent and love silence. Their silence is not associated with discontent or indifference, they enjoy the company of a loved one, regardless of verbal communication. It is enough for them to know that their beloved creature is nearby, and they get tired of talking. Therefore, you should not "load" them with meaningless chatter, gossip and love confessions, counting on mutual behavior, "love cooing" is not their element.
For such people, public places are a burden, they experience psychological stress in public places where there is a need to contact unfamiliar people. A loving introvert can "crawl" out of his comfortable "shell" in order to go to visit with you or keep company at a corporate party. But if you feel like a fish in water at such events, introverts get tired of it. After a noisy party, an introvert needs some privacy to regain balance and energy in silence. Discussion of new acquaintances or the desire to share impressions at such a time is better to postpone for later and reduce to a minimum.
For a normal life with an introvert, the habit of listening to the interlocutor and listening to his words can become invaluable. An introvert will listen patiently, but may be offended if his words are not heard. Try not to interrupt the introvert, and do not forget that the conversation is a dialogue, not just your monologue.
Living side by side with an introvert requires learning how to convey information correctly. Such people get tired of chatter, excessive theatricality and emotionality. When retelling other people's dialogues, try to convey the essence, do not imitate someone else's intonation - this will annoy the introvert. When telling something to an introvert, it is better to avoid small insignificant details, focusing on the important and the main thing.
Introverts do not like arguments, criticism, overly active objections, and generally conflicting communication. Discussion with an introvert can be a real delight when turned into a calm conversation. And an argument in a raised voice or categorical quibbles about his words, ideas and actions will cause him fatigue, resentment or boredom. In such cases, introverts usually “withdraw into themselves” trying to psychologically isolate themselves from the interlocutor. If these situations are frequent, alienation and cooling can arise in the relationship.
Be careful with your words. An introvert is easily traumatized by rudeness. Impressiveness makes him vulnerable. He may not show it, but he will be worried in secret. Offensive words are remembered by such people for a long time, and if awkward situations in communication are repeated, you risk being "overboard" of the relationship, he will simply withdraw and it will be more and more difficult to count on his sincerity. Appreciate the openness of such people, because they are not open to everyone.
Ironically, introverts often fall in love with extroverts. They are able to admire you when you turn on the charm "to the fullest", but they feel unpleasant if they see that their partner begins to "show off" in front of strangers in order to please everyone indiscriminately.
The inner world of an introvert is rich and invisible to others. If you become part of his inner universe, you can be sure that no one else will take your place there. But forcibly encroaching on his personal space is not worth it, he will not accept diktat, control and careless attitude to his personality, habits and time.
Introverts have a great sense of humor, which is revealed in the circle of loved ones. The introvert will not "sparkle" with witticisms in the presence of outsiders, and the introvert will not understand and will not forgive frivolous humor or sarcasm, ridicule in someone, and even more so - in your address or your own address. Moreover, such people often have rancor. And do not be surprised if he then returns the poisonous "hairpins" to his address - subtly, prudently and murderously, with the help of well-chosen words.
In the sphere of close relationships, introverts are not distinguished by shamelessness, they do not like excessive rudeness and swagger, but they know subtle pleasures. Not talkative, he loves more the game of touch, tactile sensations, they are in no hurry and more often think about their partner than about themselves. Therefore, do not be afraid to express gratitude for precious moments of intimacy and reveal your secret desires to the introvert. Trust will pay off, especially in such delicate matters as intimate communication.
For introverts, it is important that the loved one is happy, otherwise they feel restless and may fall into melancholy. Knowing that a loved one is happy next to them is tantamount for these people to be confident that they are loved and that the relationship is strong. If you show coldness or make an “unhappy face” while trying to psychologically crush or manipulate an introvert, you will cause him suffering. But introverts are harmonious by nature, and at some point you run the risk of bumping into the spiritual armor of indifference. And then the introvert cannot be overcome by hysterics or tears. Trying to protect yourself from explicit or implicit aggression (and any demonstration of negative feelings is a manifestation of aggression), your partner may “go to the bottom” and stop responding to your barbs and reproaches. This does not mean that he will not feel guilty about your "spoiled life." It's just that introverts have a low threshold for pain, and testing his patience in this way is unsafe for a relationship. Such people endure for a long time, accumulate emotional "garbage" inside, which are thrown into them by loved ones. But if an emotional outburst occurs, it will be extremely difficult, and sometimes impossible, to return to the old trusting and easy relationship.
An introvert will not destroy a relationship himself. Everything that destroys them will be done with your hands, with words, at your initiative. Introverts rarely go de facto to end a relationship. If the atmosphere at home is unbearable, they simply shut themselves up tightly, sometimes they find a connection “on the side”, but they never advertise it. But if such partners decide to leave, then this, as a rule, is forever. Appreciate your own happiness.
