They still remember sleepless nights, first words and awkward steps. They remember stuffed cones and children's tears, cubes, cars and bedtime stories … Mom and Dad, who were always there. But time passes, children become adults, and not all parents are ready to understand and accept this. Building relationships is not easy work, but in this case the end justifies the means.
Instructions
Step 1
Articles on developmental psychology are full of cause-and-effect relationships between problems in adult life and improper parenting. I can't find friends - my parents didn't give me enough self-confidence, failures at work - I grew up too childish. Today it has become fashionable, at least indirectly, to blame parents for their own mistakes. If your goal is harmonious and healthy relationships with loved ones, then learn to take responsibility for your own life, with all its successes and failures.
Step 2
There are two axioms concerning the attitude of parents towards grown-up children. According to the first, mothers and fathers are always prejudiced against their daughters and sons. The second says that moms and dads are always conservative in relation to the changes that occur with their offspring. And this is not just a whim or a manifestation of selfishness. In the first years of life, a child is very much attached to his parents, but over time, the emotional return becomes less and less, more and more space in a person's thoughts is taken by other people. Therefore, do not hesitate and do not forget to express your gratitude and love with words, kisses, those "calf tenderness" for which little children are so generous.
Step 3
Be persistent in your intention to build your own life. This is especially true of raising children and relationships in their own family. Be as autonomous as possible and do not ask your parents for help. On the contrary, try to help yourself whenever possible. It is foolish to try to defend your own independence, depending on your family financially. However, you should not refuse advice from mom or dad. Firstly, this will show you disrespect and lack of tact, and secondly, two heads are still better than one. In any case, leave the final decision to yourself.
