In the modern world, keeping a family is becoming more and more difficult, and young people are increasingly asking the question: how to find a good husband or a good wife? The answer lies in what exactly we mean by the concepts of "good husband" and "good wife", because satisfaction with the result will directly depend on our expectations, i.e. in this case, satisfaction with the relationship in marriage.
For the marriage to be strong, both spouses must perform their duties efficiently, appreciate and respect each other's efforts to ensure a happy family life. To do this, they need to understand each other's roles and responsibilities, as well as the difficulties involved, in order to support each other in difficult times. So, a husband or wife can be called “good” with full responsibility if he or she fulfills his direct duties with high quality. The rest of the spouse's actions are desirable and, by and large, should be perceived as a pleasant bonus.
The husband's direct responsibilities include:
1. Material support of the family. It is the man who is called upon to earn money to ensure the existence of his wife and children. And his wife should help him correctly distribute the finances obtained, talk about financial needs in time and learn to live within his means. In an extreme case, the wife, of course, can also go to work, but the main responsibility for the material support of the family lies with the husband.
Advice: before agreeing to get married, discuss with the chosen one the moments of making money and simulate various financial situations in the future family.
2. Ensuring the safety of the family. A man is also called to be the protector of his wife and children and must be ready to fulfill this role and make sure that his family feels calm and protected in his own home and the surrounding society. This includes, for example, choosing an area to buy a home, family recreation and home security.
Advice: before agreeing to get married, discuss with the chosen one the living and resting conditions of the family, simulate various emergencies and ways to solve them. Analyze if you can trust this person with your life, honor and health, as well as the safety of your children.
3. Making strategic decisions for the family. Of course, in any difficult and important situations, the husband should listen to the opinion of his wife and children, if at that time they have the right to vote in the family, but the final word should be his. The husband should make balanced, deliberate decisions, if possible, taking into account the wishes of other family members. It would be very good if he could explain the decision made if it goes against the opinion of his wife. And, of course, he and only he is responsible for making this decision, regardless of whether it was correct or not.
Advice: before agreeing to get married, think about how strong authority this person has for you, whether you agree to trust him all your life to make vital decisions, how much he listens to your opinion if there are disagreements on fundamental issues, whether he is responsible for his decisions or blames the circumstances and other people in case of failure, and how such situations are generally discussed.
These are the main duties of a husband, failure to fulfill which will surely create a crack in family well-being, therefore, be sure to pay attention to this before you say the most important "yes" in your life. After all, it is you who agree to be close to this person and share the joys and sorrows with him, agree to depend on him in the field of material security, security and family development. Until you agree, you are not bound by anything, but your consent means that you are handing this person your life and destiny, so weigh everything carefully and accept the consequences.
And if your spouse responsibly and constantly performs the duties listed above, then, believe me, you have a good spouse and you just have to polish the relationship, bringing them to the ideal.
