Every year, thousands of children go through this unpleasant procedure. The reaction of children to the divorce of their parents depends on all the circumstances of the divorce itself and, of course, on age. Divorce of parents for a child is a shock and disappointment. Many children can go through it quite calmly and accept the situation that cannot be changed. Sometimes it happens that the psychological trauma that a child received during the divorce process is very difficult for him, and he may need the help of a specialist.
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If the parents understand that divorce cannot be avoided, then the child needs to be prepared, mom and dad should participate in the conversation together. In doing so, hiding your feelings of frustration with your spouse. The main thing is to make it clear that the child is not to blame for anything and that they will be with him, even if they live separately.
Child reaction
Everyone's reaction is different, some pretend that everything is fine, hiding their feelings, other children begin to study worse, their appetite decreases. At such a moment, the main thing is for the child to feel your support. Feelings can be violent, but reactions like anger, depression, and anxiety are normal. But there should be a gradual improvement over time. If, after all, things go worse (outbursts of aggression and violence, alcohol or drug abuse, problems at school, abandonment of everything that was previously fascinating) then you will not do without the help of specialists.
It is important not to involve children in parental conflict, no matter how strong it may be. First of all, think about the child, he should not make a choice between you. Divorce for a child should only be a break in the love relationship between parents, and not the deprivation of one of them. It's good when spouses find the strength to communicate in a friendly way after a divorce.
This behavior teaches children to solve problems correctly. In no case should the child be denigrated and turned against the father or mother, the father has the right to meet with the child, just like the mother. And even if it seems to you that the child is very small, then in fact it is not. He is perfectly aware of what is happening. Talk to him on an equal footing, without pretending or deceiving. It is important for the child to feel that they are being considered.
