A good mother is one who is happy with her children. At the same time, everyone has their own concept of the components of happiness. You must, first of all, define your own "comfort zone" for yourself. And, perhaps, the most difficult thing is to find a good compromise between the interests of the child and your "personal life."
Instructions
Step 1
First, stop comparing yourself and your baby to other moms and their babies. And do not try to fit yourself and your family into general stereotypes of "goodness." You and your child have every right to be yourself and live the way you like.
Step 2
You are unlikely to feel happy if you try to "embrace the immensity": maintain perfect order in the house, cook, raise and educate the child, work, and at the same time there should be time for yourself and your husband. With such attitudes, it is very easy to drive yourself into a stressful state, which will not do anything good for you or your child.
Step 3
Prioritize yourself and your baby. In the first place, of course, is what is vital for the child: care that ensures health; maintaining the necessary order and cleanliness in the house (but without fanaticism). In second place is the healthy and positive state of the mother. On the third - support for a healthy family atmosphere and comfort. And then all the other things.
Step 4
Find out for yourself what exactly these positions include from your point of view and follow this despite the opinions of others. Accept for yourself that your vision of caring for a child and home may differ from the point of view of a mother, friend, mother-in-law, etc. The main criterion for assessment is how you, the child and the father of the family, feel.
Step 5
Of course, there are some rules to follow when dealing with a child, especially when he is a little older and your lives no longer follow the same plan. Always take time to socialize and play with your baby. Ask him how his day went, tell about your experiences.
Step 6
While the child needs it, put him to bed. Kiss him, hug him, tell him you love him. Read or tell a story. Let your baby feel your love, attention and care. If they are expressed only in feeding, brushing teeth and moving between home, kindergarten or school, circles, and for the rest you will have neither the strength nor the time, then it is unlikely that your child will feel happy.
Step 7
Always try to understand your child, look at the situation through his eyes. This will help you avoid many misunderstandings and disagreements and will provide your baby with the trust that is essential for good parenting. Talk to your child at his level, i.e. if necessary, sit down. This is especially important when "clarifying the relationship."
Step 8
Encourage the child to perform the necessary actions (housework, cleaning toys, studying, homework, etc.). You can enter a system of points and rewards. While consciousness is not at the proper level, it will save your time and nerves. But do not get carried away so as not to get a situation where the child will demand a reward for any of his actions.
Step 9
Praise your child more often, try to shout at him less. Respect his personality from a very young age. The criterion for a really good mother is warm, trusting relationships in the family and the child's reciprocal desire to please the parents and show his love.
