When a person learns about the betrayal of a spouse, it seems to him that the whole world falls right on his head. Betrayal of a partner is always perceived as very painful. And the main task for the one who was betrayed (and often the one who betrayed) is to get out of this situation with the least loss.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to deal with your emotions. Many misfortunes can be done under their influence. Often, those who find out about the betrayal of a loved one begin to break dishes, drown their grief in alcohol, try to repay him with the same coin.
The first is fraught with material costs. Drunkenness can lead to alcoholism and delirium tremens. And the attempt to change in order to punish the guilty is disgusting and unfair in relation to an innocent third person. To whom, whom the offended chose for himself as a new partner.
However, keeping emotions in yourself is also fraught. Find a way to let off steam that is painless for yourself and others. Go to the gym, for example. Or cry. Or try to put all your emotions on paper in free form. Many masterpieces of literature and painting were created under the influence of strong feelings.
Of course, if possible, consult a psychologist. A specialist will help you cope with destructive emotions and direct them in the right direction.
Step 2
Understand the situation. Find the answer to the question "Why did he change?" Don't rush to blame anyone. Perhaps the betrayal was accidental (they drank a lot at a corporate party, the mind was clouded, etc.). Try to understand if the betrayal was a mistake or if your spouse is a terry womanizer who will poison your marriage with his actions all his life.
Step 3
Decide what you will do, and once you decide, do it. If you come to the conclusion that the betrayal is accidental and your partner sincerely regrets, together think about how you will live on.
If you come to the conclusion that your man will continue to hurt you with infidelity, or simply decided to end the relationship with the traitor, then part. But part so that you will not be able to return.
The most important thing in the period when the wound from the rupture and betrayal is still fresh is not to indulge in refined masochism, listen to "yours with him" songs, looking at joint photos. Force yourself to do general cleaning at home, go to a meeting with your friends, to a fitness club. Continue to live, trying not to think about the "former", not to give him your vital energy.
