The family can and should be a strong, reliable union of loving people, but both spouses will have to take care of this. Neglecting each other's interests, selfishness and jealousy can kill both a warm relationship and the family itself.
Instructions
Step 1
According to statistics, half of divorces are caused by alcoholism. Living with an alcoholic is really unbearable, a normal person will do everything to protect himself and his children from this misfortune. If your family is threatened with divorce for this very reason, the culprit should decide what is more expensive for him - loved ones or alcohol.
Step 2
This disease is curable, but the patient must have a strong motivation, for example, the desire to keep the family. It is good if you have the support of your half, but for this you have to convince her that your decision to defeat alcoholism is firm. If you have had breakdowns in the past and your loved ones have reason to mistrust you, this will not be easy.
Step 3
You can go to a specialized medical institution, join the AAA (Association of Alcoholics Anonymous) or take your own drugs - in any case, you need willpower and determination to go through the treatment to the end. Your family's love will be your beacon and stimulus.
Step 4
Marital infidelity is another common cause of family breakdown. A rare family can withstand such a blow: abused love can turn your soul mate into a merciless avenger, ready to do anything to make you feel the same pain, the same despair. Try to carefully hide the secret side of your life, if you really can't resist cheating.
Step 5
If your sexual partner wants to change his status to "spouse", he may report your relationship to your family in the hope of a quarrel and divorce. Try not to give him this opportunity: do not give your home phone number, prohibit calling you at home. If your soul mate suspects something, stand up to the end, deny the obvious. A loving person tends to deceive himself in order to maintain the illusion of a loyal strong family. However, do not abuse his trust: sooner or later, the most reckless faith can collapse under the weight of evidence.
Step 6
The reason for the breakdown of the family can be both groundless jealousy and complete indifference of the spouse. Sooner or later, an innocent person will get tired of constantly making excuses and proving his innocence. The strongest irritation can cause total control - constant calls to work with the requirement to report what the suspect is doing now; resentment for the fact that there were too few callbacks; checking mobile phone and e-mail …
Step 7
A reasonable share of jealousy will benefit the relationship - hardly anyone will be satisfied with complete indifference and demonstrative confidence: “No one needs you, no one will covet you,” but it is necessary to observe the measure. Try to control yourself. You will not be able to constantly control your spouse, you will not be able to keep him by force. Only his interest in you and the desire to be together will be some kind of guarantee of loyalty. For this, at least, it is necessary that he happily return home.
Step 8
Indifference to the problems of the spouse can also lead to the collapse of the family. If you value your relationship, help your soul mate, share family responsibilities with her, and be attentive to her problems. If a person does not find sympathy in the family, he begins to seek mutual understanding on the side.
