They say that love is an axiom and does not need to be proven. But this does not work when the lovers are separated by hundreds of kilometers. If all communication takes place only online, it can be difficult for a girl to understand where the real feeling is, and where is just a smiley. In such situations, she may begin to doubt the guy, demanding proof of his love from him.
Why does a girl demand that they prove their love to her from a distance?
In order for a guy to work out an optimal plan of action for himself, he must first understand the reasons for this requirement:
- By itself, love at a distance causes skepticism in many people. And even if a girl is 100% confident in mutual love and in the successful development of these relationships, she probably has girlfriends or acquaintances who, directly or indirectly, set her up against the guy. In such situations, in order to prove to her friends and acquaintances that they are wrong, and to become more confident herself, the girl demands from the guy proof of his love and serious intentions.
- Love at a distance often fades out without receiving any development (hence the skepticism). Therefore, demanding proof of love, the girl first of all wants to see that the guy does not just say beautiful words, but also tries in every way to reduce this distance, to make the relationship develop. She wants to see that the guy is preparing to move or helping her move.
- Personal characteristics of the girl herself. These features include low self-esteem, thirst for constant attention, increased emotional excitability, jealousy. If a girl previously had an experience of a sad relationship with a guy, then this also leaves its mark on the current relationship at a distance.
To find out what is the reason for the demands of proof of love, you need to talk a lot with the girl about her and listen carefully to what she says. As they say, the devil is in the details.
How to prove your love from a distance?
Today, long-distance relationships are of interest to psychologists. After conducting numerous studies among several hundred couples, psychologists have developed recommendations that will help a guy prove his love at a distance:
- A guy should try to communicate with his girlfriend every day. And these should not be messages in instant messengers or SMS, but conversations in Skype or by phone. Thus, the guy shows the girl that she occupies an important place in his daily life.
- Doing something together despite the distance. For example, you can have dinner together, using the same Skype, watch a movie and share your impressions about it online, etc. Lovers living together spend most of their time not talking, but hanging out together. And in this way the guy shows that he is ready for this.
- Always stay connected. When you are not able to see each other every day, it is important to maintain an emotional connection. To do this, it is enough to share your small victories and joys, emotions and experiences.
- Try to find common interests and constantly discuss them. Firstly, in this way there will be more things that bind the lovers, secondly, during hobbies, both partners will think about each other all the time, and thirdly, there will always be something to discuss and share emotions.
- Remember all important dates and set reminders on your phone. Thus, the guy will not miss an important day and will be able to prepare and send a small gift or a postcard in advance.
- Discuss joint plans for the future. The girl should understand that she will not wait for the guy at the smartphone all her life, and one day their relationship will develop.
If, despite all the efforts of the guy, the girl is not happy and demands more and more, then it is worth thinking about the sincerity and expediency of such a relationship: “Only the heart is sharp-sighted. You cannot see the most important thing with your eyes."
