Rudeness, according to one version, originates from the biblical character Ham, who was one of the three sons of the legendary ark builder Noah. During the intoxication of his father, Ham behaved in the most disrespectful, boorish manner, which, in general, cost dearly to his descendant Canaan. Biblical times have sunk into oblivion, but rudeness remains. And today every person who wants to keep their nerves and health intact should know how to fight back a boor.
Instructions
Step 1
Unfortunately, a boor can not always be put in place. Mr. Dovlatov even argued that rudeness (and, therefore, boors) is, in principle, invincible. Sometimes it is better to change your attitude towards rudeness and rudeness in order to preserve your nerve cells. It is worth suppressing the surge of adrenaline and thinking about the fact that someone else is rude to you, incompetent, notorious and simply playing back on you their complexes, low status and "downtrodden" (remember at least sellers in inexpensive stores), powerlessness. You will understand that all the insults that are now uttered by the boor do not have the slightest relation to you personally, and then you are already free to choose whether to react to rudeness or simply leave the boor alone with himself.
Step 2
Ignoring is the simplest reaction. If you cannot change the situation, leave it or drive the boor out of it, change your reactions. Take your attention away from the rude saleswoman or boss by turning it to something more aesthetic. Count, for example, the number of buttons on the seller's blouse, the number of apples on the counter, or something else. Look at beautiful things.
Step 3
Let the fog go. It is quite possible to answer any boorish statement addressed to you with one of the phrases where rudeness gets bogged down like in a swampy swamp. For example: "Each person is different from another, lives differently than another, is carried away by other things, and learns the world in different ways, reacting to events in ways that may differ from those accepted by other people." There are many examples of the use of this phrase. For example, a salesperson is trying to get nasty on you, demanding not to touch his product (say, tomatoes) with his hands. You can answer that in this world there are a huge number of people who do not know how to determine the ripeness of tomatoes only by their appearance. And you just belong to such people.
Step 4
If rudeness crosses all your boundaries - defend them. Rigidly prevent penetration into your territories with the phrases "this is not in my rules", "this is my personal business (beliefs, principles) and you have nothing to do here" and others. However, it should be taken into account that few people understand what is said the first time, and be ready to repeat it the second and third.
Step 5
Another way to react to rudeness is humor. Find something funny in the words of the boor. Let it be a phrase, a gesture, the very specifics of the situation. Laugh at what you found.
