Quarrels between parents and children are a truly inexhaustible topic. They happened before, are happening now, and will happen when today's children themselves become mothers and fathers. Simply because different generations have different points of view on literally everything. But at the same time, parents are piously sure: they know better what exactly their children need, and children (especially those who have already matured), naturally, have a directly opposite point of view.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, remember: you are dealing with the closest people. Yes, sometimes parents are annoying, unfair, very arrogant (from the point of view of a child, of course). But this is mom and dad. Therefore, a tone that is quite appropriate in communicating with peers, friends, who sometimes also allow themselves too much, is unacceptable here.
Step 2
Restrain yourself, answer politely, even if everything is boiling inside and you really want to snap back. The main reason for quarrels - rudeness (already from the point of view of parents) - will immediately disappear.
Step 3
Another reason is the child's indifference, laziness, unwillingness to help. Here is a typical example: a tired mother returns from work and sees that the child has not fulfilled the instructions: the garbage has not been taken out, the dishes have not been washed. Naturally, she is annoyed, makes claims. Word for word, and a quarrel breaks out. Of course, the child will find excuses: lessons at school, extra classes. He is also human, he is tired too. But was it really so hard to find a few minutes to help the mother around the house? This effort would pay off in full. And my mother would be happy, and the quarrel would not have happened.
Step 4
In the case described above, in response to the claims of my mother, it would be worth not to snap, but to say: “Sorry, I just did not have time. We were asked such a difficult topic! For any normal mother, the child's study is a very important matter, she would understand.
Step 5
But what about the cases when the children are already adults, moreover, they themselves have become parents, and the father and mother still treat them as helpless babies? They call several times a day, give advice, or even categorical instructions. One can understand the annoyance of children. There are only two exits. Or learn to ignore everything - listen calmly, thank, assure that you will take their advice and opinion into account. Do as you see fit. Or, politely, but firmly, make it clear to your parents that you no longer need such "close" care.
