Difficulties in communicating with new people can be experienced by introverts, extroverts, those who have experienced mental trauma, as well as those who have health problems, etc. In any case, it will be difficult to completely protect yourself from communication in society, and it is extremely undesirable.
Instructions
Step 1
You will have a new acquaintance. When preparing for it, do not try to radically change your appearance with outfits, hairstyles, and makeup that are unusual for you. It's best if you look like you are going to a date with one of your good friends. If you are experiencing deep depression, do not lock yourself in four walls. Who knows, maybe it is the new people who will lead you out of it.
Step 2
Tune in to a positive outcome. Imagine how easily and naturally a new acquaintance will pass: everyone is smiling and happy that they find each other interesting people. To make this fantasy come true, smile already on the way to the place of acquaintance, for example, the sun glare, children playing in the street, the chirping of sparrows, etc. By the time you arrive at the meeting point, your smile will be as natural as possible.
Step 3
To gain confidence in yourself, start the acquaintance first (s). It’s not that difficult, because you just need to introduce yourself, exchange greetings and invite you to sit down. If you are introverted and uncomfortable, don't torture yourself - tell a new acquaintance that you are very worried. Perhaps he is trembling no less than you and will try to help you.
Step 4
Extroverts, on the other hand, should be wary of their own chatter and the desire to get all the attention. If, moreover, they do not hide value judgments about someone's appearance or actions, then they can easily alienate new acquaintances, and excessive gesticulation can tire. Remember that acquaintance is first of all a dialogue, which is aimed at finding common interests and preferences. When asking a question, listen to the answer, try not to interrupt the interlocutor.
Step 5
If you are afraid of meeting new people due to individual problems (stuttering, poor hearing, nervous tics, tremors of the hands from excitement, etc.), humor and self-love will save you. With normal self-esteem, you will not be intimidated by those who are attracted to the candy wrapper more than the candy itself. To gain confidence and self-worth, read the autobiographical book "I Can Jump Over Puddles" by journalist and traveler (with polio since the age of six) Alan Marshall.
